Nervous and Excited... Take the risk??

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Ok, well I have had this "crush" on a guy that works right down the street from where I work... I see him almost everyday I work and he flirts alot... Laughing

... And now that I have been single for almost a month I want to get back into the world of meeting new people....

The only thing is, I don't know if he flirts with just me or everyone! I have seen him when other girls come in and he didn't seem to acknowledge them like he does me... I come in and get a smile and a "Hi Christine.. blah blah blah".... but he always flirts...

So anywho, I have had this "crush" on him for a few months now... and I want to give him my phone number.... Do I take the risk?? I know there is always the chance of rejection and all.... and i know he works near me... but I could always change where I eat, lol...

Should I?? I am all antsy, I feel like a little kid waiting for Christmas! Laughing

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I think it's hard to make that first phone call. It's the 21st century - Why not just ask him out? Just say "hey you want to meet for coffee after work on Thursday?" or "I was going to see suchandsuch movie this weekend, want to come along?" - Be friendly and casual. If he likes you he will find a way to say "yes" - either by accepting your offer or making one of his own.

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Hmmm... what if I said I was going to the pool hall with a few people 2nite and gave my number and told him he should come or something along that line... Should I do a group thing or a just me and him thing?

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I think just the two of you on a simple date. Other people will put more preassure on him. I really think you have to be the one in control of the offer which would require a simple "yes" or "no thanks" from him.

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My biggest fear is rejection... but if I never do it then I never will know.... Everyone gets rejected from time to time... I am just gonna put my head on the chopping block, shut my eyes and Pray

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Go for it. The more rejection you get the more resilient you become. Rejection is not fatal and the other possibilities are great.

I once asked a guy in High School to go to a dance with me. He flat out in no uncertain terms told me to go away. I was really hurt, but I went ahead and asked another guy who said yes. We ended up dating our senior year and are still friends to this day.

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Thanks GW... That which doesn't kill you makes you stronger!!!

I'd like some MALE OPINIONS also please... I am trying to look at it from a guys perspective, would it be to intimidating if the woman made the first move?

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I like the idea of casually asking him to a group thing.It implies no pressure on either sides, give him your number so he can call if he cant make it, asks exactly where it is etc but he could use it to call you for a date before the communal gathering!!

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Well my original plan was to give him my number and say we should go out sometime this weekend, each bring a friend or two and shoot some pool... then his friends and my friends would be there and we would feel comfortable... and then I could so or we could go get a bite to eat... leave him with the choice of being with me alone or with a group

But I don't know if he has a girlfriend either! I am also guessing his age, he seems right around my age, maybe a year or so older

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Always best to have a group, if your friends like him then half the work is done.

Age doesnt matter.Just go for it, in one way or the other.

Just realised how inexperienced and unhelpful Ive been.

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material girl wrote:

Always best to have a group, if your friends like him then half the work is done.

Age doesnt matter.Just go for it, in one way or the other.

Just realised how inexperienced and unhelpful Ive been.

You have been very helpful thank you!! Laughing

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Can I get an opinion from any of the men on the forum?? I need a guys point of view!! Puh-Puh-Puh PLEASE