First Date.

Good point Littlek. That's one thing I noticed a huge difference between here and there. When I was in the city it was just like you described, but it's opposite here. People strike up coversations here all the time and I really like that. The only thing I still haven't gotten use to is hearing my name all the time. In Waltham when I heard someone say Gisele, I knew they were talking to me, but here my name is very common and I hear it constantly and it feels kind of strange. This man that must have been atleast in his mid 80's was hitting on me the other day and it was so funny. He pointed to my empty wedding ring finger and told me he was single and looking for a good woman, lol.

LOL Slappy. Gee, I can't imagine what their problem would be with that comment.

80!

Yup!

Man, I always have the really old men in the grocery store hitting on me..usually while their wife is rollin her eyes with that...take my husband please look

speed dating....certainly was an Im not dating enough what the heck do I do now thing....should be experienced though...nothing like it

LOL gezzy!!

Littlek- Nothing wrong with flirting with anybody (I like to flirt with everybody), it's fun, innocent no one gets hurt (unless they're flirting with Slappy,..ouch, trunk lids hurt ).
Lately, I've come to realize that people in the city are aching to talk and flirt with other people. I've been having the best time in the markets, and met a bunch of really nice people,...don't want to date any of 'em, but they're fun to wait in line with!

Quinn
The old guys are always under my feet at the store, but they're funny. Now if those guys that catch my eye every now and then could do the same thing, maybe I'd get somewhere.

Jerry
Good for you. I think it's great that you do that. It makes people feel good about themselves that someone cared enough to talk to them and I really think we all need that. I know I still need to loosen up some.

The 'boys' outside today had some spring in their step....bangin on my window, waving, .....I still want to make a sign that says "Is that supposed to impress me?" but, Im trying to keep the peace as much as possible.

So, my point is...just dont get too friendly...balance and all is what will work I think

like you know..showing one of those guys the cucumber you picked or something

there is a line you have to draw..even in the grocery store


well...if you want to that is

When I first met my boyfriend, I suggested we go on a walk during our lunch break at work. My anxiety was reduced because it was in the middle of the day, I was already dressed up, I'd been around work and people so my mind was in the busy limber mode, which reduced of the exhausting anxiety that comes with a first interaction. There was an hour time limit, so there was enough time to figure out whether there was anything worth pursuing. And, I didn't have to concern myself with thoughts of food missing my mouth and falling in my lap.

Gala
Very good. I like that story.

Quinn
I won't even look at a man when I'm in the cucumbers. That's just asking for it, lol! When you mentioned the boys with the spring in their step, the first thing I thought of was that viagra commercial where the guy is pretty much dancing down the street on his way to work. That commercial just cracks me up.

Gala
It must have worked in your favor since he's your boyfriend ;-)

I do talk to people and they are receptive. But, put a cute guy without a wedding ring on in my face and I clam up.

Yup, that's me too littlek. Sweaty hands an all! Damn!

That's why I like to wear that fake wedding ring.

too keep scary women from hitting on you?

I have a fake engagement ring. I have no idea where it is.

No, to encourage the scary women to hit on me.

I'm lying.

No fake wedding ring.

No rings at all. Never got that creative.

Gezzy, even before I met him, and I would go out with other guys I would either suggest the walk thing, or a daytime coffee meeting. I have never been good about "first dates". The reason being that you can find out quicker if the guy is a jerk or not. After going out to dinner with a guy who I wasn't interested in, (usually the crime would be they were boring) it just seemed like a huge hunk of wasted time. And it would make me kind of cranky and sad for the following days. It would just reinforce the negative idea that I would never meet anyone that I wanted to be with. So a walk serves two purposes, a chance to figure out if the person is worth continuing with, and even if they are not, at least there was some exercise involved.

Girl I'm friends with was telling me about this guy that asked her out to dinner...she said she's not interested in him, but why not go? It's a free dinner.

Hope she goes and he asks her to split the tab.

If a man cannot be at least polite and charming (and not boring) on a first date, or even a first meeting, they are certainly not worth your time. However, in defense of my sex (heh), men are often equally nervous about meeting new potential partners.

About the cucumber thing, note to men trying to meet women at a grocery store: avoid the melon section

Once upon a time, when dinosaurs ruled the earth and I was single, I used to like to invite a girl to my place for dinner, as I cooked very well. Years later, I discovered this could be rather intimidating....more fool me, I suppose

About those octogenerians....maybe find out if they have some coin, accidents do happen, and you can always hire a cabana boy

The walk idea is a nice one, but make sure it is in a crowded place....sounds a bit scary otherwise.