First Date.

For me, it was a glass of wine as I was getting dressed.

That's not a bad idea Eoe. I always got more comfortable later in the date after a few drinks, but a drink before hand would settle the nerves some. Thanks, I'll remember that if I should have a date in the future ;-)

Changing outfits as many times as possible..the time it takes to figure out what accessories work with each one..and the thoughts of nervousness are gone. Actually though...only a few have made me nervous, and Im still not sure what that says about either me or them but, still the whole nervous excited thing...you can keep yourself busy and your mind busy as well. Another thing perhaps is calling up on a good friend, talking through it. I dont know about the whole drink thing, but I could imagine it could help as long as it doesnt affect you.

i don't remember

Sometimes I am, sometimes I'm not. There's always at least some butterflies. I find reversing the relationship timeline around, and having sex before the first dinner helps calm my nerves.

I think it should be acceptable to get drunk BEFORE a first date.

I subscribe to the idea of skipping the first date and going right on the second. Nervous small talk, out. Thoughtful probing, in.

Ummm, no need to comment on the thoughtful probing, Slappy.

Great advice Quinn. Thanks ;-)

Dyslexia
I hear that!

Slappy
As usual, hahahaha!!!!

Muerte
there's food for thought.

dyslexia took my line.

LOL Larry. Mine too ;-)

You know, I was never one that did go on many dates. I just ended up meeting someone at a party, etc... and we just started seeing eachother from there. I never did meet the right guy for me and I sometimes wonder if I ever will.

I was way too shy, even into college. I preferred the meet-at-a-party method too! And by then the beers had kicked in and I actually had a personality.

I hear ya Larry. I've made so many bad choices in men when drinking that I'm making sure not to make that mistake again, which probably explains why I've been alone for so long. I've gotten picky in my old age.

You and me both. The wonders and perils of alkee-hol.

Being picky can be lonely sometimes though.

But Gezzy, you are so pretty and men are so shallow. Well, I guess that doesn't help you much! Just kidding about the men of course.

I always get nervous before a first date. I'm not much of a drinker, so I don't want the first impression to be "oh, there's a drunken wench!" I think I'll just do the same as dyslexia. In fact, I think I already have.

Again, Gazzy, much like my life.... but, I have been trying to date. I find that I'm less nervous in my 30s on a first date than ever before. My sense of humor and level of self-confidence are both much improved. Of course, I still do get a little nervous and it seems that I get most nervous when I like the guy a lot. It's kind of a gauge of mine.

Thanks for the compliment Chatoyant. I know what you mean about the drinking as it can send out the wrong idea. I've always been the romantic type and it's so hard to find a romantic man out there. No offense to you guys out there. I use to have a pen pal years ago that use to send me flowers on my birthday, Christmas, Valentine's Day, etc... and we were just friends. Well, that ended when my boyfriend at the time who never did anything romantic wanted me to end my friendship because he was jealous. Very controlling man he was. Since I've moved to Canada I've had a lot of time to do some thinking about my past and do some serious soul searching and I've finally figured out what I want in a relationship, but getting it is a whole different ballgame.

well, they say that once you figure it out, finding it is easier. Good luck to you Gez, hope to hear good news soon.

Littlek
Yup, just like me. If I really liked the guy I had the sweaty hands and I felt flushed which made me more nervous. It's been 5 years since my last relationship and when I think about it I think of how long that is. I think it's great that you date. Being here in Canada not knowing anyone makes it tough for me in that department though. I do hope you find the right guy in your travels ;-)

Thanks Littlek :-D