Frank, I doubt anyone has you on ignore, but you do tend to beat a dead horse. You might remember some time back, I sent you a PM, actually a PM to you and whoever it was you arguing with asking when it was safe for me to return. I got responses from you and the other poster when you were busy calling each other "LIARS, LYING LIARS, remarkably both of you told me neither one was willing to stop. I'm sure you and whoever you were exchanging insults were in 7th heaven, but I had to scroll thru page after page after page, waiting for the original topic to reemerge and it just never did. If you think I don't understand how difficult it is to let a provocative comment go unchallenged, you are sadly mistaken. Sometimes I read things that make steam blow out my ears, and often I feel I must respond. When I do, the usual nightmare ensues.p
I can't speak for Edgar, but I don't think he is talking about censorship or shunning. I think he is asking folks to show some restraint when confronted with a particularly provocative remark. I once started a mammoth **** storm when I said to Finn, "Oh that's nice, you thought of something nice to say" and that was only on a RIP thread. We can't always predict what kind of reaction we will elicit. When I remark after certain posters I usually know it's going to be poorly received, sometimes I'm surprised.
Anyhow, I don't think this thread was about any one person in particular. I'm sure when I appear it makes some people's teeth ache, when it gets too ugly on the current events threads....my default is the game threads. But even there somebody thumbs down threads that are non-political, non-religious and just plain silly.
Just to clarify, I don't dislike Frank, I don't believe in censorship, I don't want anyone shunned. However, there is a poster that refers to me by female body parts, regularly calls me a whore and since I'm not crazy about illiterate unimaginative assholes, he's on ignore but just for me. But since other people like him, no harm no foul. He's visible to all the others.
Just for Frank, I'm sure I've pissed you off and I wish I could have avoided that. I don't want to be another foe, because often you talk about subjects that are interesting. Those religion and atheist threads bore me to tears, no one can convince a believer their beliefs are piffle, no one will magically convert an atheist into becoming a faithful church going member, at least not by anything that is written on the forum. As far as Agnostic, I think that should be safe haven, again who is going to tip the balance to believer or atheist?
This is gotten a lot longer than I intended it to be. Since Edgar's request pissed off a few members, I wanted to carefully express my thoughts in hopes that it might actually resonate with somebody. My reasons are purely selfish, I enjoy the company here and I hate to see so many folks throw in the towel because it seems like a bar fight to them. I'm comfortable with the occasional bar fight, but I don't want to be in constant conflict.
Crap, I need to post a "but", I'm not even suggesting that controversial topics be eliminated or that conversations can't be spirited, I actually enjoy the chaos most of the time. But I think we can do better that someone saying "you're a big doody head" and response being "your mother wears army boots". (that was a test, anyone remember when it was actually insulting to suggest women wear army boots?)