Just the other day I noticed so many old posters on Merry Andrew's thread. I think Andy is a man most everyone cares about. I know I have enjoyed him, and I can't remember seeing him over-reacting to minor irritants. However, I assumed many posters had left due to poor health or lack of interest.....apparently that's not really the case. People leave because this forum can become toxic over even minor disagreements. Sometimes it's not even a disagreement, sometimes it's as simple as one poster not liking another.
A number of posters remind us from time to time to not feed the trolls. So I agree with Edgar. I have been ruminating today over how to word a request like Edgar's in a way that wouldn't invite scorn and misplaced ridicule. I didn't find Edgar's request insulting, I also don't know why so many folks assumed he was talking about them personally.
If we are honest with ourselves, we can all think of times when we posted something because we get angry. I just think it's a shame so many interesting folks have given up. NewYorkAbuzz collapsed under its own messy weight. SB became so twisted that by the time I left there were only 4 people active. That forum is no more.
It might be time to remind ourselves that we are enjoying or not enjoying a vehicle that someone built so we can chat, discuss, joke or bitch about things. It doesn't cost us a thing, people volunteer their personal time to serve as moderators, to prevent hackers from taking over, plus there is no advertising to deal with. We don't display a great deal of gratitude, and we also get annoyed that people can choose to ignore us. Apparently we get confused if we are experiencing hospitality or can demand hospitality.
Edgar, you did a brave thing by placing this request on the forum. Unfortunately too many of the previous remarks are inordinately defensive.
I can't speak for Edgar, but I don't think we have to like everybody here but that doesn't mean we can let our dogs poop all over other people's yards. To many members are MIA, I wish they would reconsider and come back.
That's just something I would like to see, you don't have to agree with me.