@layman,
layman wrote:
Who is "adapting" and "evolving?"
Apparantly not you.
Especially if you have to even ask a question such as that.
It's your personal business what you choose to call people. However, you can't be surprised when they look you in the eye and tell you what you called them offends them.
If your definition of a victim is someone who is not afraid to make their needs known, then you may just be upset because they aren't letting you get away with it.
I prefer to call someone what they tell me they would like to be called, and if that changes, so do I.
Either you're just being pedantic and picking at nits, or you don't understand the importance of making the other person feeling comfortable.
If 5 different people wanted me me call them 5 different things, I'd do my best to do so, and everyone, including me, would benefit.
Today, 2015 in the U.S. the term colored is old fashioned and offensive.
If styles of dress, preferred modes of life styles, leisure and work can change, then why not what people would like to be called?