Before my wife got home tonight, I was reading reviews about the book 'After the Affair.' I came across a review that totally changed my perspective of everything. The review was short and simple, but really hit home. It said “this book made me realize that I do have options.” I thought about it, and came to the same realization. I have options - this is not going to destroy my life. I won't let it! I'm a good looking man. I have good characteristics - good sense of humor, loving, generous, loyal. I'm smart and I have a good job. Why would I ever allow myself to settle with someone who doesn't love me completely?…I shouldn't!!
I made my wife a nice dinner and when she got home, I told her that I thought we should take some time to reevaluate where we are and where we are going. I told her I wanted her to think about if she really wanted to continue together. I told her that I know that it's what I want, but I don't want her to rush back into something until she is 100% certain about her feelings.
It didn't take her long to tell me that she is certain that she wants to be with me. She said she wants me to be the one that makes her happy, not someone else.
I explained how I felt about myself and that I feel like we both deserve to be with someone who fully loves us.
It began as a difficult conversation, but by the end, we both felt better and we got some of the closeness back.
I can honestly say that I am starting to feel like I'm over this. I feel that she really does love me and it feels great. I've had so much trouble putting my feelings into words, but somehow it just came together for me last night. And I couldn't be happier with the result. For the first time, in a long time, I feel like I have my wife back.
Thanks again to everyone for helping me get through this! I couldn't have done it without your help!