Yeah. Like at 50 there are legion of people waiting for us just become single and VOILA!
Yep. Because they were un-happy, un-able to change things, try as they might and walked away and VOILA met someone else. I know because I did and I'm 50. You do realise (51 shh) that 50 is not old don't you?
I can also tell you about those butterflies. OMG great huh?
But, they do go away and you become best friends with sex and for that moment of time, you get them again, each time.
So you have your best friend, he tells you, you are beautiful but he talks like a baby sexually and so you gave up because at 45 you were at your peek and wanted more, at 20 you found it cute. How do you change him to be that? IDK, he's been that way for years and years. Tell him, you are at your peek and you've changed, discuss how you would like to be sexually treated and tell him not to laugh but listen and work on it.
Chances are you have all that you are craving right there in front of you if you can get him to "listen" which means don't make a joke about it, talk seriously about it, don't threaten another man, talk to him, at him, in proper conversation.