This thread is a year old. And I am coming back here with an update.
Just to tell you people how wrong you are about most of things you were showing your 'smartasseness' about things you have no idea about.
So me and my love were going downhill with our lives. It was getting messier and messier and he wasn't feeling safe and I found out we are compatible everywhere except sexually...so we had stopped communicating except for business.
Seeing him for business was a torture and he was giving me 'eyes' and stuff and we both knew this mess is just that...a mess!
So to scratch the itch I went on adult site where people hooking up by area close to your location and start chatting with men. Exchanging pictures and having sex talks...to keep my mind out of my mess.
Got to tell you I have a new respect for men now.
99% of the guys on this site are in sexless marriages and suffering by staying in marriage for tons of different reasons. I had met one awesome fella who said he had never cheated on his wife of 18 years. And he didn't feel proud or any good to cheat but he has a very strong desire for sex and she has none. No affection and no feelings. We sat and talked for an hour about how to help the situation. He is not turned his profile down so I hope they resolved the issue.
So it is all different book for women...what are you doing to your husbands?
And question what to do when people have different sex drives?
I am looking for the answer...
So yesterday my husband went out and told me he saw all of my communications with these men. And I wasn't hiding from him, I was sitting rith here by his side sexting with men and he had never asked what am I doing...so I kept up fun for myself. Then I would go and play with myself and achieved full body orgasm I had never experienced in my life!
I had no idea there are men out there who would love to please a woman for her not for himself...though he is pleased as well. And that you can get an oral for longer than 5 min!!! I had learned SO MUCH! And I didn't want to end up dead without ONE good sexual experience and orgasm from MAN!
I was planning on meeting someone and DO IT! All the way!
Well, yesterday my husband sat in front of me and told me he knows and he is willing to work it out and try to satisfy me as a woman. He cried and I felt like I do love him but...**** I wish I wanted him. He begged me not to cheat on him and not to leave him.
I said I am willing to try.
We had mediocre sex and he had tried too hard and it was...sad!
However I was trying to be cheerful and supportive.
Is everyone happy now? Yes. My husband.
Me and my love one are miserable protecting our marriages and children and our spouses living in mirage having no idea that person next to them is dead inside. How fair is that?