@little nug. I was wondering how you are doing and what you did with the situation.
My situation is so similar exept that i was the other woman without knowing. I dated a guy who didnt wanted to commit but told me he was loyal. We broke up due to his jealousy. He insisted to be friends and was allways touching me and flirting, jealous and even seks several times. I found out to have a STD. In the end I found out he has a gf and that he cheated on me with his new gf (never called me gf) thus he was also cheating on his new gf with me. Due to the STD i emailed her. He on the other handtold her I am crazy, psycho, a threat etc and has seks with me out of pity. To me he says I dont love her but will commit to her, as she found he he cant me friends anymore but otherwise he still wants to visit me as jealous friend. He also lies to me about the STD and until the last moment he hide her from me and still being jealous.
What I am saying is, he is playing a manipulative game! I dont know why but I think mine lacks empathy and is a pathological liar. As he has the opportunity he will cheat again. He keeps a foot in the door with me, but i am too harsh to him so he is with her as she us still bying his lies.
So in your situation, i feel so bad for you. But as the other woman (which i didnt know before) he can be very convincing is saying he is single etc.
If you truly love someone and want the marital commitment there is no reason to have cake somewhere else. You may be the main gf, but he has fallback girls do you want that? He has been deliberately cheating on you that i am sure he will do it again. And what about the emails etc, my ex forwarded my anger texting to his gf, she sent me a hatemail and with that i can tell he has changed the order or not sent her everything although she claimes to receive everything
. Based on her incorrect story I can tell she has not received the full story. She believes him know but I know he is still lying to her. My ex lies to both of us the safe his face, to benefit himself.
Hope this helps with your choice.