By "intimacy" you mean sexual intimacy? Of course, sex and intimacy are not the same thing, but that is the "go to" phrase for serial cheaters. Stop. Just stop doing it. Telling yourself that your somehow entitled to this behavior because "things are no longer intimate" is not OK. It's hurtful and selfish. The men on those sites are looking for hookup sex (and with as many willing women as possible. It's very risky, both in terms of safety AND high risk for STD's) and they are absolutely PREDATORY in their tactics. Respect YOURSELF more than that, and either end it with hubby or get counseling, and work it out. I know, because I DID that, and it almost ruined my life. After therapy, recovery work on my own issues, and getting really honest with my husband, we were able to get passed it, and get healthy in our relationship, but it was SO HARD. It was SO wrong, and I really wasn't in my right mind, but that's still no excuse. I had a ME problem, not a marriage problem. We are one of the lucky ones whose marriage survived such a terrible hit. I can't believe, now, that I even did it, but I did. I am telling you...do yourself a favor, and STOP NOW. All the stuff the men say and promise is complete BULLS&*T, anyway. ONLINE dating sites and fantasy thinking is ALWAYS better than the reality. It isn't real. It's using people, and letting them use you as a pain -numbing drug. Dabbling in the online only thing, will , eventually, lead to an affair, and they are just NO GOOD. Nothing good comes from them. I hope you are able to delete your profile from them, and never go back. I wish you love and light.