Exgirlfriend going to same festival as me, advice ?

so if i can, you reckon i should be her friend.
and not mention what happened at the weekend between us

I am more experienced than I really ought to be at winning the hearts of ladies playing hard-ball Beth. And I take it you are not.

And I have made a careful study of the works of men who were a lot better at it than I was. And of Jane Austen's ideas on such matters.

Where was the bf during the night of kissing in the tent?

he wasnt at the festival

What happened?

I look at it from the perspective of the young woman with a boyfriend - and I say nothing that mattered happened with you. You're a friend.

Why was that? If I was bf and found out that my gf was off for a couple of days without me kissing an ex all night in a tent I would be pretty pissed.

I couldn't be bothered asking the heroine how she explained her absence to the bf. One farrago of lies, evasions and nonsense is much like any other farrago of lies, evasions and nonsense.

The bf was sidelined. That's the fact. The whole silly theory that she texted Downie to warn him she would be at the festival with the bf to save him embarrassment has been blown out of the water, is holed below the waterline and sunk without trace. As befits rubbish.

I assume that "we are in our 20s" means 26-9. Spinsterhood looms.

And with Downie self-evidently not having one single homosexual cell in his body bachelorhood doesn't loom for him.

If anybody tells you Downie that we all have a homosexual component in our make up, just laugh.

she didn't mention the bf when she texted him to say she'd be at the festival

I didn't say she did. I was talking about your theory Beth.

I know why she texted Downie.

on day 2, she initiated a kiss and said she wanted to kiss me more.
later in the day we went to my tent and kissed and touched each other
no sex.

I have some of her stuff, should i contact her about it? or let her contact me
she knows i have them

yea late 20s

Was it the Burning Man festival by any chance?

i wish.
im in europe

Let her contact you...

i have a feeling she has just gone back to him, in her town. wont have to see me there. i have some of her clothes.
was not expecting to spend so much time with her.
or for it to be so enjoyable.
my head is all over the place now

that wasn't my theory

no

you're not up to casual contact with her

either have someone else arrange to give it to her or throw it out - throwing it out is what I'd recommend

yes.

she has a boyfriend.

was she just exercising power over me?
whats her game?
telling me 5 weeks back that she just loved me in a friendship, companionship way. this was after i told her how much i wanted to be with her.

Yes. She is ******* with your head (and you are letting this happen, by making yourself available and by obsessing over this).

Throw her clothes out and delete her contact info. It obviously confuses the hell outta you.