What would your gut be telling you?

Female version of story:

Quote:

blah blah blah

Male version of story:

Quote:

blah

Where has it changed that's it's become interesting?

Additionally, tho I have never gone to a laundromat,
if I ever went there (or anywhere) with food, I 'd eat my own food,
not distribute it among others.

David

. . . my gut is telling me you're just trying to draw me into an argument, and I'm not going there.

Additionally, tho I have never gone to a laundromat,
if I ever went there (or anywhere) with food, I 'd eat my own food,
not distribute it among others.

David

Not going to pretend to be even a little socialable, huh Dave?

PS: I didn't give her the donut, even though she did look kind of deprived.

OmSigDAVID wrote:

Additionally, tho I have never gone to a laundromat,
if I ever went there (or anywhere) with food, I 'd eat my own food,
not distribute it among others.

David

Not going to pretend to be even a little socialable, huh Dave?

PS: I didn't give her the donut, even though she did look kind of deprived.

Where has it changed that's it's become interesting?

At the point where you started trying to explain why you made your first post. That happened some time around your second post. Despite all your explanations, though, I still have no idea why you even bothered. It's not as if you wanted some advice. You specifically said: "I'm not asking 'what should I do?' nothing happened, there's nothing to do." Indeed, nothing happened. Hence my disappointment.

I don't put too much stock in all the pop psychologists who try to explain gender differences, but I have to admit I think John Gray is onto something when he says that men's communications tend to be goal-driven whereas women's communications tend to be process-driven. I once told a woman, who was in the middle of a convoluted, M. Night Shyamalan-esque story about a problem she was having at work, to "get to the point." I quickly learned never to make that mistake again. The fact is that she really didn't have a point, she just wanted someone to listen to her vent.

As I said, I have no idea why you started this thread. You want to defend your gut instinct, but I doubt that anything we could say would change your position -- after all, gut instincts aren't rational, so rational arguments won't put a dent in your conclusion. Your gut says that these two guys are creepy. No matter how many details you pile onto your description of events, there's little likelihood that your gut reaction would change. The problem, then, isn't that you added too many details to your story, it's that you added any. I'll know better next time.

but u neglect the fact that this is a social site to which conversation is endemic.
Sometimes conversation is cathartic.

David

but u neglect the fact that this is a social site to which conversation is endemic.
Sometimes conversation is cathartic.

David

So are germs, sometimes.

chai2 wrote:

Where has it changed that's it's become interesting?

At the point where you started trying to explain why you made your first post. That happened some time around your second post. Despite all your explanations, though, I still have no idea why you even bothered. It's not as if you wanted some advice. You specifically said: "I'm not asking 'what should I do?' nothing happened, there's nothing to do." Indeed, nothing happened. Hence my disappointment.

I don't put too much stock in all the pop psychologists who try to explain gender differences, but I have to admit I think John Gray is onto something when he says that men's communications tend to be goal-driven whereas women's communications tend to be process-driven. I once told a woman, who was in the middle of a convoluted, M. Night Shyamalan-esque story about a problem she was having at work, to "get to the point." I quickly learned never to make that mistake again. The fact is that she really didn't have a point, she just wanted someone to listen to her vent.

As I said, I have no idea why you started this thread. You want to defend your gut instinct, but I doubt that anything we could say would change your position -- after all, gut instincts aren't rational, so rational arguments won't put a dent in your conclusion. Your gut says that these two guys are creepy. No matter how many details you pile onto your description of events, there's little likelihood that your gut reaction would change. The problem, then, isn't that you added too many details to your story, it's that you added any. I'll know better next time.

I don't understand these condescending posts one MUST make to show
how uninteresting others are. If I don't like a subject, I won't write there -
no need to insult with writing blah, blah, blah or making it understood how
trivial one might be. There is also an emotional intelligence that some seem
to lack completely!

Comes down to it, you don't have any more to say than you think I have.