@Robert Gentel,
Robert Gentel:Quote:I don't believe the claims people are making about themselves either, but ascribing this to arrogance is to do what you decry, thinking you know more about those who don't believe it than they do.
No. It isn’t doing the same thing as they are at all. The act of calling people liars and fools (Finn did that, not Lash – Lash just seemed to heartily agree) for not agreeing with the characterization that all people say things like “I hope he dies” is arrogant. The act of trying to depict people as delusional or not self aware because they say that they would not react in the same way as you; that’s arrogant.
RG:Quote:By your standard, all Lash has to say is that she is not being arrogant and then you are (by your standards). And how then is your psychoanalysis of David any different? He certainly doesn't think he has mental health issues or is a victim but you do, does that make you arrogant? I think you set a very low bar for arrogance: merely disagreeing with people's takes on themselves.
That’s some pretty convoluted reasoning. On the one hand, some people react negatively to those (Finn and Lash) making a vast generalization and insulting anyone who says they don’t fit that generalization. On the other hand, you have a couple of people (Finn and Lash) who believe their remarks about what “everyone” would certainly say should be accepted as a given, and who seem incredulous that anyone disagrees.
I think you set a low bar for coherence and equivalence.
RG:Quote:Just what is so wrong about not accepting the self-image of others? The notion that they know themselves best ignores that they have the greatest bias and may not see themselves as others see them.
Can’t tell whether you’re being willfully disingenuous or if you really can’t tell the difference between what ehBeth and I are doing, and what Finn and Lash did. Maybe you could make the argument that others might know someone better than they know themselves if we were talking about people who actually knew each other – maybe.
But we are people who know each other by what we reveal through this forum. With that limited body of knowledge, it is at least presumptuous and probably arrogant to be proclaiming like its the gospel what “everyone” would or wouldn’t say.