@ossobuco,
I'll add -
I don't equate myself to being a new yorker who lived through that day and lived past that day.
I do have emotional connection to New York City. When I lived there for a short time in my childhood, it was one of the happy times for my family, which got fewer fairly quickly after that. I was a spoiled girl in a magical place, which I got to understand more fully later.
9/11 was the day I had my needle biopsy that would turn out to be positive. Early that morning, a couple of hours after I woke up to the news at the friend's house was visiting, I went to see my long time ob gyn because of my suspicious mammo and ultrasound of the day before. So, I was in double shock. He was a wreck himself, as it was at best midmorning and he had a old friend who was working in the towers. It was a memorable doctor's visit, as we were both vulnerable that day.
Together we decided I should see if I could get a biopsy right away at the bc center, as I lived in a small city far away and was only in town that week. Thus I spent the day trying to get my own procedure in a hospital that was freaking out, including just about everybody in it.
So, not all of us with a clear point of view of 'fine if they build' are emotionless about the planes into the towers or who did that. We don't equate who did that with the people who are going to build a place meant for communication.