And, furthermore, how do you spell knaw? Probably gnaw. or Naw. Whatever you like.
Scripting or awkward pauses.
There are choices we get to make.
If you think you'll be able to think of something to say once he picks up the phone, go unscripted. If you think you'll draw a blank and aaaah unhhhhhh "so why'd you call, l'k?" uhhhhhhhhh ahhhhhh - have a couple of ideas prepared. It's not like you need to memorize a routine <which would only work if you faxed him the script in advance> - but have an idea of why you're calling when you start dialing.
right, I just wanted an angle to focus on, not so much a script.
If a simple hello doesn't get his attention, given you knowing each other, my view is he's a ducking duck.
Not to hurt you with that view.
I like Slappy's idea. A few parts to it:
1.) You get to tell him that you're interested without saying so in so many words.
2.) You get to tell him that you're not amused by the waiting-by-the-phone thing without saying so in so many words.
3.) You get to be both not amused (strong) and giving him an out (nice.) Both good things, both of which you are.
Osso - so, what were you agreeing with Slappy about?
Sozobe - yeah....
Re: # 3, as opposed to calling and saying, "You've had my number for [x number of days], what the hell is wrong with you??" Even if he's a bozo he has the chance to say, "Man I'm so glad you called, see I lost your number/ I'm so busy with packing/ I have these deadlines before I leave/ whatever." That's what I mean by an out.
scripting in this kind of scenario is angles, not actual 'now i say this and now you say this'
my suggestion was one angle. it's easier to type out a sample than a "and then you could ... "
so - my suggested angle (in as abbreviated a format as possible) is -
you know he has your number - you know he's leaving - you'd like to whatever (have coffee/drink beer/get nekkid)
My favorite line:
"Hi! Just driving down the street, I saw two dogs f$#king, and I thought of you."
Very flattering.
So, how about saying I just wanted to make sure he didn't lose my number...? Like Clear suggested. Sounds more anxious?
I could just drop the whole my number thing and go with a more active angle. Something along the lines of telling him I only have the one way of getting ahold of him (work number) and wanted to tell him xyz before he left work for good. That way, I show some intitiative (which I think he likes) and show him that I'm interested.
Alas, I don't remember what I agreed with Slappy about. Perhaps we'll agree again sometime and we can record it.
littlek wrote:So, how about saying I just wanted to make sure he didn't lose my number...? Like Clear suggested. Sounds more anxious?
I could just drop the whole my number thing and go with a more active angle. Something along the lines of telling him I only have the one way of getting ahold of him (work number) and wanted to tell him xyz before he left work for good. That way, I show some intitiative (which I think he likes) and show him that I'm interested.
I like the active approach. Most guys like to hear someone's interested.
yep. And since he seems a little gunshy, maybe it'd be a good thing.
There ya go. Less line-y, more straightforward, still has the 1-2-3 benefits.
I'd go with your second approach also. Saying you wanted to make sure he didn't lose your number sounds more desperate. Forget the fact he has your number when you call.
Now you're ready to rock.
If you don't bang this guy within a week, you've failed us all.
