the on-line dating system is a flimsier meat market with bigger numbers and a higher rate of shallow judgmentalism; like a lot more gold diggers looking for some one with a lot of money. also, people lie like mad on these things so, I have found it is extremely difficult to get a realistic idea of who yo uare communicating with. At least in real life there is body language, vocal inflection, etc etc.
the advice given above about joining more activities you like to find a like-minded individual is probably the tried and true way to meet a signifiicant other
Yeah, struth.
I have a pretty passive profile up on two sites. Don't get many hits anymore. Kind of like it that way.
Something's been bothering me: what do you do on an online date? Visit a restaurant site simultaneously? Download a movie?
(Well, there's those solo online dates, but that's not what I'm talking about here...)
actually, I talk with guys online to get to know them and date (coffee/beer) them in real life if I like them.
(just joking around, naturally. i figured there was a real-time component.)
actually, some people do online date.
huh. okay. wouldna thunk of it myself, but there you go.
uh, actually, you did just think of it yourself.
Yeah, okay, fine. Does the defense rest now?
(First the muff quibble, now this. She's out to get me, I'm thinking...)
My van bears a bumper magnet (D.H. says stickers are a no-no) that reads:
The Internet Now you can meet Millions of Losers!
My sister is living in the proof of that remark.
Gen - your sister is a loser?
My brother met his wife online, they currently have a daughter and are very happy! There are good and bad relationships, but be careful!
I think you can meet a lot of losers anywhere, in a bar, a restaurant, at work, anyplace!
You have to rely on your gut instinct, most of the time!
There's nothing like eyeball-to-eyeball contact to decipher whether your heart and your soul agree!
true!
too bad people don't make much eye-contact in this city.
BillW, what do you mean, "be careful" what are you thinking of to be careful about?
Since this discussion began, I've been to two gatherings and had second thoughts. The people I've met held no surprises. The dating sites may be quite different, of course.
Lola, There has been all kinds of bad things happen directly from internet relationships. Then again, so do people who go to bars for relationships, probably more common!
good things happen on-line. bad things happen on-line. good things happen IRL. bad things happen IRL. we all need to be smart - and somehow balance caution and openness.
Watch
me on my teeter-totter!
it helps to have good friends to spot you on-line and IRL.
I agree Roger. I've had few surprises. On the occasions when I have met my internet friends, I've had no mind changing surprises. Making eye to eye contact and finally getting the whole picture in appearance, voice, accent, method of speech, body language, etc. has mostly confirmed my impressions. And in most cases, it's certainly enhanced my concept of these people, enlarged it and made it seem even more real. Dating sites probably have a different, more complicted dynamic. But I wouldn't know because I've never been to those places.
