Is this a good move?

I dunno...

I don't see anything wrong with a little embellishment to get the ball rolling.

I don't know about that exact story kicky, since if she was related to your fictitious cousin, she'd be related to you too.

I don't see it as a lie, just as playing the game of love. I certainly wouldn't lose respect for you over it.

A man I was in love with for a long time confessed something to me years after we met. He (I'll call him John) thought I was cute and wanted to ask me out, but couldn't figure out how. This other guy, Jim, who was interested also had asked me for my phone # and I'd given it to him.

John saw my name and phone # on Jims table, and put it in his pocket. Later, Jim asked if he had seen that piece of paper and John said "WHAT? WHY ARE YOU ALWAYS ACCUSING ME OF STEALING YOUR STUFF? JUST BECAUSE YOU CAN'T KEEP TRACK OF ANYTHING DOESN'T MEAN IT'S MY PROBLEM. NOW GET OUT OF MY FACE BEFORE I KICK YOUR ASS!!!"

Then John called me, asked me out, and the rest is history.

When John told me, I felt flattered he had stolen my number because he wanted to win me from this other guy.

and no...he didn't yell all that. He just played stupid and said he didn't know.

If I got a thank you card, thanking me for the interview, and saying let me buy you a drink, I don't think I'd be that happy about it.

It's making too many assumptions, that I drink, that I'm available, that I like mixing business with pleasure, i.e. killing 2 birds with one stone by thanking me for considering me for a job, and, in any case, let's get jiggy? It's also putting a burden on her. Now she's got to respond to this direct invitation....answering a generalized "are you related to" is an ice breaker.

Sending a message that puts the business part out of it is saying you are thinking of her outside the profession she's in.


Yeah, it's an ice breaker....I don't think it's any different than showing polite interest in something your object of interest is talking about in, let's say a group, talking about mexican restaurants. I mean you don't have to say you LOVE mexican food when you don't really care for it, but you could say you like some of their dishes. You don't have to be so truthful to say you HATE mexican, if she's saying she doesn't eat it all the time, but she likes it.

Does that make sense kicky?

emailing her something not strictly true is showing interest, and someday when you tell her you made that up to get her where you wanted her, she's squeal and say "you BAD boy!"

But you're already married,

Hey, GW, I realize you have no interest in a couple of old decrepit has-beens like Gus and I anymore, but what say you about my idea for how to insinuate myself into this beautiful director of human resources' life? Got any suggestions?

Oh, poor Kicky. What to do.

Well. Do this. Send her flowers thanking her for the interview, and tell her if there are openings in the future you would like to be considered. Wait two days, then call her and ask her out for coffee or drinks.

Oh, draw a cute little picture of her with the flowers as a tag.

Don't stalk.

auntie

Good Lord! Now SGlass is here!

Ok, Green Witch, I will send you my motel key.


Forget Kicky.

Oh, poor Kicky. What to do.

Well. Do this. Send her flowers thanking her for the interview, and tell her if there are openings in the future you would like to be considered. Wait two days, then call her and ask her out for coffee or drinks.

Oh, draw a cute little picture of her with the flowers as a tag.

Don't stalk.

auntie

kickycan wrote:

Hey, GW, I realize you have no interest in a couple of old decrepit has-beens like Gus and I anymore, but what say you about my idea for how to insinuate myself into this beautiful director of human resources' life? Got any suggestions?

I actually do. I agree with the other women - don't lie, we always know. The problem is it might look like you are sucking up to someone who is a power position, or you might seem like a stalker by asking her out.

How about calling her after you get a new job? That way there is no conflict of interest. Call and tell her that you started a new job, you remember having a nice time talking to her at your interview, and ask her if she would like to meet you for a drink/coffee to see if you have as much in common as you thought at your first meeting.

First Date tip: don't ask her to hold your penis.

How about calling her after you get a new job?

Setting aside your reservations about the lie, is there anything else that you see wrong with sending the e-mail?

Green Witch and Kicky have always been my favorite posters and now Green Witch is selling me out and Kicky is turning into a bitch.

What now, Gustav? Where now does your life turn?

gustavratzenhofer wrote:

Green Witch and Kicky have always been my favorite posters and now Green Witch is selling me out and Kicky is turning into a bitch.

What now, Gustav? Where now does your life turn?

There's always TTH.