On the edge and toppling off....

He'll be okay.

I think so too.

Time worrying with friends is not wasted (as I think JPB said). Will be thinking of you today (although I have to go soon).

Izzie--

Truth of the Universe: Men do not improve simply because you are divorced. R. is likely to mature and improve. His father.....probably not.

I have no professional credentials. Furthermore, I've never met your son and I've only heard about the situation through your highly stressed focus.

I did raise two sons and six stepsons.

R. is a kid with special problems and a great deal of anger. He's also bright and capable of great love (admittedly when his problems don't get in the way).

I don't think the Professionals are planning a "Hands Off and Watch Him Fester and Decay" course of treatment. Before R. can take responsibility for his actions, he has to feel in charge of his actions. Blaming you is a copout. Blaming the school is a copout. Even blaming J or Dear Old Dad or the Fuckin' Universe is a copout.

R. is good at rationalizing and blaming others.

I'm guessing that the pros are trying to give him a world that belongs to R--not to parents or a student body or inconsistent friends, but a world where he is in charge.

He has to personally comprehend wielding power before he can recognize misusing power.

Meanwhile, you're cast as Loving Mama Waiting in the Wings with no power at all. This is both difficult and bitter. Your motherhood with R. has had a lot of difficulty and bitterness for quite awhile. You need to vent, too. We're here to listen.

Remember, we're howling tonight at the full moon.

What Noddy says.

Howl at midnight girl, join the pack
X

Thanku....

I agree too.

R has been just been picked up by the police from my friend, Pam's house. We knew he would go there as he was outside a shop having bought Pam flowers for her birthday. He was there for a while. Slept a little. Police turned up - he said he would leave with them as he wouldn't cause a problem as it was her birthday, and that when they drop him off at The House (which is in a city), he will just leave again.

Choices. His.



(apologies for the incoherent and unpleasant post from last nite - guess the sleeping tablets and my frustration don't make a good mix)

Howl with us tonight Izzie.

Really. Really howl.

I can't tell you how good it feels.

~~~

Schtoopid ex. Mebbe he'll eventually learn not to assume. Mebbe not.
Mebbe the police'll make a note that there are two parents who MUST be kept informed (this seems more likely).

Izzie,
Sorry to hear about all the agony you have been through with your son. But he is now safe and that's what counts. As a mother we would just like for everything to be perfect with our children but we don't have the power to make everything go away. Izzie, please think of yourself and take care. I know this is easier said than done but it is very important that you do this. Hugs!!

Seems like there will be alot of A2K howling tonight! Make every howl worth it chaps!

I'll be howling.... fer suuuuuuuuuuuuuuurrrrre! :wink:

Be sure to check yer knickers first, cuz ya know folks will be watchin'.... :wink:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nhSc8qVMjKM

RH

ha - yep - my pretty little dress is tucked in my knickers!!!!!!!!

Same here! I'm still reading and will be back later. I'm so sorry to hear you're going through all this lzzie!

Just finished reading.

(((((((((((lzzie)))))))))))

Hey Folks....

Thanks for the hugs lovelies - today is the day after the yesterday before... and all that....

the sun has been shining but it's mighty chilly outside.

I'm keeping distracted and actually, keeping my head together and on straight - if a little lopsided at times when the one snagging thread pulls it down little.

I have joints flaring ALL OVER - my "cast" ankle being the worst right now along with my hands. Won't stop me typing, but eeeeeuw - my fingers are like misshapen sausages all twisted and swollen. I had another funny turn today, did a little falling over but fortunately had a friend here who caught me as I went down. All very strange. Maybe just the "tired" kicking in again. Hey Ho!.....

I go in tomorrow to be "de-wired" and just wonder whether or not it's all going to be fused and functioning. I guess the wait and see will be for the tomorrow after the day after today...and all that...

The house move is still full steam ahead and I'm cool with what's gotta be done. It'll be done, as and when I'm ready to do it. I'm "head-ready" to go, tho it is a little scary as realisation of being in the big, wide world, away from what's been my life here for nearly 10 years, is starting to hit home. However, it's all meant to be and I'm on the right path to venture to new horizons.

I had a good "howl" which was apt as I am in the dog-house with the BigBoy who won't have anything to do with me for "betraying" him to the police. I didn't do that, I know it, I am fine in my head with the fact he can't understand the reasons that things happen. In fact, my head is pretty clear - which is a bit of strange feeling, especially as most of my family down here really do believe I have a screw loose. They don't get my "positive" attitude or the "attitude" of letting BigBoy do his stuff and my moving past it. They seem to want to get me to wallow a bit more - which I just can't do.

I dunno if that makes any sense. They are still living in the "black" and I'm heading into the "white". Well, who knows a? That's how I am today.

So, will get back to ya'll after I am "casted off" and "wired out", hopefully reporting back that I really do have Happy Feet.

It's all in the SOLE.....or is that the "SOUL"

Anyhooooooooooo - off to play again and do a bit of sailing.

I hope everyone who celebrates Easter had a lovely Sunday, and everyone else, that you had a lovely Sunday too.

Thanks all for watching over me. Wouldn't be mastering the waves without all of your support and caring. Thanku

<smooch>


We'll be thinking strong thoughts for good fuse-results tomorrow.


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My "15 for Izzie" project continues. Sometimes the items are tiny, but they count and they're going.

Good luck tomorrow Izzie!

Izzie,
Hope everything goes well tomorrow when you go to the hospital to be "de-wired". Hugs and best wishes. Will be thinking of you.

Izzie--

May you come home a Well Wired Woman.

As for:



Believe me, very few teenagers can understand the reasons things happen. R is perfectly normal in his feeling that a Real Mother would have allowed him a glamorous night in the open air.

Ripeness is all. In children Ripeness equals Maturity.