On the edge and toppling off....

Well, that's no good.

Would he have gone toward your parents?

Hey muffin, checking in. Broke out early.

Could I get a cuppa, and maybe sit for a bit?

How's your dominion holding up...

RH

No. My parents are in the same town that he headed for. He won't go to them now. He'll be with the people who make him feel "something" - something is better than nothing in his book - he could be anywhere.

Because he's run away before ..... well, it now just makes him another runaway. Doesnt seem to matter what happened last week - I know the police have far better things to do, there are people out there who need help and crime and all that....

but where is that leaving him....

they know he was scared yesterday

he made the choice to walk out of The House

therefore.....

on your head be it lad!

It's not that simple.


edit: maybe it is that simple. Ex hub is now going to bed. I'm to call him in the morning with any updates

Izzie
I am here for you. Just wish they could find R to ease your mind. Everything will probably be OK. I know it is very difficult to just sit and wait but there is nothing else that you can do at this point. Can the people at the House not keep him from running away? Is he 15years old?
The place where he is staying what are they responsibe for? I guess I don't fully understand the situation. Know that I am here for you and will wait with you until you hear something. Hugs!

Hey everyone. Thanku as always.

He's found. Police have him back at The House (not one phone call in 12 hours from them, but hey!). He's very drunk. Very emotional. Crying a lot. They figure he may be realising these people are not good for him. They don't know if anything has happened to him. But he's not bleeding and no bruises. I don't know any details. I think he will probably tell me in his way over the next few days. Who knows, it may all happen again tomorrow. The staff at The House say - they can see the pain he's in - they just want to shake him and make him see sense. Well, we've all been there - for many many years. Unfortunately tho, it doesn't work that way.

Right now - he's back. Just his head and heart will hurt again tomorrow.

At the moment.... he's safe again.

Another day over..... another day beginning.

Thanku everyone for holding my hand. You don't know how much it means to me, or how it eases the heart-hurt when it's all going on. Really. Thanku


(EBGirl - thanku to HIM too - he makes me smile a lot - love him)

Izzie
I am so happy they found R and I know it is such a relief to you to know he is now safe. Try and get some sleep. I am here for you anytime you need to vent. My heart goes out to you because I know it is a very difficult time but think positive. Gentle hug!

And you, dear lady, need to hear that and sleep as you can.

Thanku Jodie - bless you hun. I will do my best and stay strong.


JPB - I know you and others have been holding my hand the whole day - and I know you understand everything going on in my head and I love you all for it. You guys stabilise the quicksand... and keep me steady.

Another day of learning how to deal. I don't know if it's getting easier or harder. Resilience. What I do know - is black paint comes off with white spirit - and there is so much "white" spirit here - that I'm pretty much cleansed now.

Thank you all. xxxx

Izzie

There will be nights when you're up all night because you're worried about the current reality. There will be nights when you're up all night because you're pondering the what-ifs and what-fors. This night does not need to be one of those nights.

Rest -- for yourself because you need it, for R because he'll need your strength later.

many, many hugs coming your way.

I'm glad he was found, and that he's OK.

Take care.

Thanku.

I SLEPT!

R is a little bruised and battered. The 3 lads kicked him in - they said it was an "initiation" and he had to take it! However, he's not that daft, punched back, limped running and the police found him.

Maybe he will learn a lesson. Maybe not.

They do "believe" he realises these young adults are not his friends. Sometimes tho, for R, it may be better to have "bad" friends rather than "no friends". We shall see a?

So - a beautiful day in Devon - blue skies and big white clouds, very cold and breezy. Just perfect.

Another day.... how welcome.

glad to hear it re the sleep and beautiful day ahead.

crossing fingers for lessons learned.

Izzie
Sleep is good for the mind and body . Hope R has learned from this experience. Maybe he will be afraid of what might happen .

I am never far away Izzie. Even if it doesn't seem I am around. I always check on you everyday. You've been in such good hands here, though.
Not much I can say that isn't being said. Keep climbing that mountain, my friend!



~Hugs n Love
xoxox

I know hun. Thanku

Lovin you girlie x

Hey Izzie. Reading and watching...

I am very impressed by you all - Izzie and everybody who is there for her. And some people say you cannot have a relationship through the internet. You all prove them so wrong.

Izzie--


When there is never a dull moment, a good night's sleep can be wonderfully exciting.

I know your frustration about the disconnect between What Should Be and What Is. The House Staff sounds long on sympathy and short on empathy--and autistic kids need imaginative observation.

Obviously you'd rather not get into an adversarial relationship with these people that "R" needs so badly right now. I would make it clear to the "professionals" that you are far from thrilled with their staff learning about autism by trial and error with your child.

"R" aches for "real" social contacts, a peer group unconnected to any of his family. All the same he showed remarkably good sense by fighting back and fleeing the Initiation Ceremony. This isn't information he's picked up since February--this is your doing.

Marching towards manhood with a different drummer, portable sensory deprivation and normal dreams...."R" doesn't have an easy row to hoe.

Keep holding--and remember to enjoy sunshine and spring.

Keep holding? No "dominion"?

I fear we are seeing the end days.

Thanku Urs and Noddy...




Urs....

A2K - these good folk here and the crew on the ship....

no words.... like family, are virtual family.


Noddy - with all you are going thru I'm so thankful you are here listening and advising me... BIG meeting on Wednesday - which I demanded (bravely) to be here at my home - on my turf - with one and all!

I am much better saying the words to peoples faces - the words seem to flow steadily and make sense when I say them - rather than the gushing I do here. My voice will be "louder" face to face - and I'll hope that they can hear me when they have to LOOK at me, rather than on the end of the phone!

I need to try and be un-emotional with them to get my points across - but with enough emotion that they take a long hard look at the fact that R is not some other child, he's mine, he deserves the best help and they are the ones who have to give him that help. He's not just a "guinea pig" for their "unique setting". Mistakes like they are making need to stop. It's R who needs to learn - they should already have their "learning" before dealing with a child's life.

Anyhooooooooooo -

as I said

this virtual family here - you hold my hand, keep me focused, let me play and do not judge.

I haven't had that for the longest time - except with my "other self" Charlie! So, my thanks to you all x

Izzie--

Glad my words can be of help.

Good for you chosing to play Mama Tiger on your own turf. Take the high ground and hold the high ground. High Maternal Outrage is hard to argue with.

You are howling tonight, aren't you? We're in the Dark of the Moon.

Gus--

There are wheels and wheels and circles and circles. You, sir, are a man who chooses to ride the rim--in High Style, of course, but even with High Style the rim-riders have limited perspective.