ossobuco wrote:Agreeing with all said... Dag's view is particularly insightful about what may be going on with them to form their attitudes (their attitudes, past natural disappointment, that are particularly hard for me to even begin to comprehend).
back on what CJane said about your work and standard of living (not sure standard of living would be a convincing phrase for them, but I agree with the point), there is also the time you have invested in this company that appreciates you and will pay for your move. (Their alternative is you should lose your job? Your ability/competence in your job is part of you - admittedly not all, but a functioning part.)
Added to that, I see the move as a boost for your husband. At a time when he's had trouble with a new business, which is, if not deflating, not fun - he would be looking at ease of moving into other work. New things to look forward to all around.
In my note, I focused more about lifestyle change - pointing more at advantages for the kids like family neighborhood, family friendly, neighborhood quality schools and also the fact of short commute so we can spend more time together rather than the financial side - like my job and my husband's business.
By the way I haven't given the note to them yet. My husband looked at it and thought it touched the biggest point, but also said part of it didn't make sense - I need to go back and fix some of my writing and it is so difficult for me to work on it (emotionally that is).
I do feel better today - still a touch sad, but much better than yesterday - a good night's sleep sometimes does wonders.