Chai Tea wrote:Montana wrote:Chai Tea wrote:um.....excuse me....I'll say this quietly then run away.....
A while back you were wondering about "what if I talk to him, and he turns out to be a real jerk?"
well....I think this is your wake up call.
Instead of hoping he'll dump this "new" girlfriend and turn his attention to you, perhaps you should be feeling lucky that he's shown his true colors.
He's got a "new girlfriend" but is still interested in "fluanting himself" in front of you?
If he were to dump her and turn to you.....wouldn't he be doing the same to some other girl?
I feel sorry for this other woman, would you want to be in her shoes?
Think about it....you could have been her, with him still looking for a better deal.
Slow down there, Chai. I never said I wanted him to dump her for me, but if it happens that they don't click and it doesn't work out between them, I expect I'll still be available.
I do think about the girlfriend and about how she would feel if she knew he had his eyes on me and I'm not insensative to that at all.
In fact, that bothers me, but since we haven't had any contact with eachother, it doesn't bother me that much.
I haven't met many men that didn't look, so I consider this to be pretty normal.
I've been in her shoes and I didn't like it, so I have no intentions of taking her man.
She could just be the one to dump him and that is what I'm hoping for ;-)
Oh....that's not what I meant Montana...sorry I wasn't making myself clear.
It's more like something my husband says sometimes..."If they'll do it with you, they'll do it to you"
meaning, if he feels he can have a girlfriend, and still throw meaningful glances at another woman....what makes you think that if YOU were the woman he was going out with, he wouldn't be doing the same with someone else.
That's what I meant about learning what he is like.
To me, personally, this would be showing me that he doesn't respect his girlfriend very much if he can still be flirting with other women. It would be showing me that if he was going with me, he would continue to flirt with others.
Me, I'm just not interested in that type.
Darlin' if you want me to be closer to you, get closer to me...remember that song?
Ok, I got ya now and I hear what you're saying because I feel the same way as you do about these things, but I've also realized through the years that the majority of attached men look at other women.
It use to piss me off, but I've come to the conclusion that they just can't help it
Believe me Chai, this man didn't even know I existed the first two weeks I was there and I was the one who was determined to get his attention.
Of course, this was when I thought he was unattached <sigh>
