Always Be Closing.
Geez, never seen "Glengary GlenRoss?"
AIDA:
Attention
Interest
Decision
Action
I am patiently (yeah, right) waiting for an update, littlek.
Tap, tap, tap, tap, tap......
nothing from the guy I emailed.
is he sending you pictures to look at?
Husker - no I asked him out for coffee.
Rae - this weekend is going to be mayhem. I'll have to squeeze a run for groceries in somewhere, but I don't know when.
I met Brian in the middle of a flurry of I-don't-want-to-settle-down-with-any-guy-right-now-I-need-my-freedom dating of many different men. Intended all fun, no relationships. I had more first and second dates in a few months than I think I have in the entire rest of my life. I had so much fun!
Anyway, at that time I went to Brew Moon regularly because I worked in the neighborhood and they had good cheap happy hour appetizer specials. And good beer. And my friend Johnny was behind the bar and he was a very good guy.
One night, there was a man I'd never met before a couple bar stools over. Johnny asked what I wanted to drink, and I said, "Oh, I don't know, give me something dark and bitter." Brian found his perfect conversation-opener.
A few weeks later, we ran into each other, again through Johnny. Brian couldn't remember my name but he remembered "dark and bitter." Brian and I were absolutely inseparable for the next week (until he moved to Colorado.) It took us a year to finally live in the same city again, but the rest as they say is history.
I'd say the confidence boost of dating and meeting and just getting to know a lot of different people was my best dating tool ever. Just get out there and talk to people. Remember that you are adorable and funny and you have a lot of interesting things to say about the world!
Thanks Cat. I'm glad you two finally ended up back in the same town(s).
I'll second that. I met E.G. when I was in the middle of a dating frenzy. I'd been alone for a while, was kvetching about it, then realized I kept turning down guys who asked me out which wasn't exactly compatible with kvetching about being alone. So I made a vow to say yes. That was sorely tested when the first guy to ask me out after the vow was a 40-something co-worker, but after a few weeks of this E.G. made his move, and that worked great.
Oh god he made his move. I have just negated everything I have said about "don't plot, don't plan, just be yourself."
Phooey.
Husker,
Nice of you to quote me, but I don't understand your comment.
Seems as if k's confused too. Can't a guy say nice things about a girl who lives a few thousand miles away without it being seen as a come on?
KP
so true code soo true man
I'm late to this thread... I don't see a thing wrong with little k flirting wise. Well, I am also a shy woman. Still, I am all for being yourself, and if you aren't a flirt til you are comfortable with the person or in a flirty mood, well ok. I think a small smile is a good idea, if the guy is even looking in your direction...or if you catch him buying radishes, coming up with some veggie comment as soon as possible, sardonic or just veg talk. Yah, exotic fruit would be easier.
As to age, I met my husband when I was 34. A fine age.
