A question for the guys...

hephzibah wrote:

How do you guys know a girl is "interested"?

When she kisses me.

Hey, I've tried to find out reliable signs from before that, but ... <sighs> Women. :wink:

Chumly ~ musicians invented the game!

I couldn't decide between Porn Star Red and Dirty Little Whore Red....

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You said it with your own words above.... "honestly speaking". Oh, the games people play. Both men and women. The best way to let somebody know how you feel is to tell them. Being prepared for either rejection or acceptance.

I agree. That is my usual route of doing things. However, let me ask you this... What exactly is one to do when you do this and are told one thing and the actions are completely different? I would much rather have someone say to me, "No" in the first place than tell me, "Do this and you'll get the response you are looking for." and then do it and get the same response as always. That's rejection with a lie thrown in there. A little twist of the knife if you ask me.

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If you get rejection, you can look at it that you have saved some valuable time and heartache. If it is acceptance. Maintain meaningful dialogue.

I agree. I can deal with rejection. What I can't deal with is being lied to or manipulated.

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Looking for 'signs' and second guessing is fine in a meaningless flirtation. For something more, honest dialogue is the best policy.

I have momentarily lost my faith in honest dialogue within a relationship. Sorry.

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Eleanor Roosevelt said, "Nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission." These are true words. Feel good about yourself and others will follow your lead.

It is easy to say such things when you aren't the one sitting in the pot being boiled. No offence of course. But come on Intrepid. Get real. What I am feeling is totally normal. No I'm not going to dwell here forever. Gosh, I hope not anyway. However, certain actions do cause certain reactions. That's not an excuse, it's life. It's how you deal with the reactions that matter, because the reactions will happen whether we like it or not.

Yes, it is easy to say. How do you know whether I am also sitting in the boiling pot or not? And, no offence taken. I guess it depends on whether you are talking about a situation in an already meaningful relationship or a new one. Yes, it is how you deal with it and how to deal with it is not the same for everybody. Moving forward and upward is the way to go. IMHO.

nimh...

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Psst, Chai - you do remember what I said about what you'd have to do if you did go with the Dirty Little Whore Red like I suggested, right?

Another fine choice....that shade went well with Covergirls "Screw Me Til' I'm Blue" eyeshadow....was big in the early 80's.