I'm having fun reading all this too tho ... and, random example, you totally got it right on the eye contact thing, Slap. I get eye contact, they smile, that part works allright. But I tend to leave it at that, thinking, well I registered, then next time when we come across each other it'll be easier to ... whatever. Its just cos I'm shy is what it is.
And here it's even more of a problem. I come from a country where a woman will not hesitate saying something to you
when there's some kind of eye contact and you dont make the move; I think American women are even brasher. Here, fuggetit.
On another count tho, Slappy -
BACK TO THIS. In a nutshell, HE is in control of the situation. Take the lead. Instead of "would you like to go out sometime?" say "Hey, Wednesday I'm going to head over to XXX, you should come along. Ok, I'll pick you up at 8."
You do NOT want to know how often I've heard "Susannah" go totally off
about a man doing exactly this.
She's even brought it up as a reason she split up with someone - well, not just cos of that single thing obviously, but as if it were the ultimate, obvious evidence of why she would want to leave him. And later again, with another guy she was getting romantic with, this was the thing that made her totally cool off on him. Genuinely offended
You know, she's a lady
; and she insists on being treated like one. If she asks, can we meet?, and the guy sms's back (like this one guy did) "sure, I have time on Thursday, let's meet then", she's indignant, and just about ready not to go anymore at all. He shoulda asked if she
would have time, that evening.
Anyway, just one random example...