Haven't bothered reading everything, so hope this isn't already covered - from the original post :
Quote:What I've found, is it's not being "nice" that sends women running into the arms of tattoo-boy, and it's not him beating her every night that keeps her around, it's how these guys are SECURE in themselves, and have CONFIDENCE that attract them. So not all hope is lost. You can be nice, and still be attractive to women.
If I may make a correction to this - it's the
appearance of being confident (for many bad boys have severe self esteem issues in other areas of their life that impact detrimentally on long term relationships- and they've learnt how to
act confident with women).
... But it's also other things, including :
-not being afraid of being sexual (we are sexual beings)
-going after what they want (ie sex) (persistence, appearance of confidence)
(all of which adds up to 'not being inhibited in bed')
-putting energy into the chase (equals energy in bed)
-not needing validation from the woman (or the appearance of such) (doesn't take rejection personally) (not afraid to try new things)
-the ability to make the chase fun (even after being turned down - attitude to life)
-having their own life (a new exciting world to explore, can lift her own life from such)
-makes their own life (won't suck her life by being clingy/needy)
-usually popular with other ladies (social proof)
It's not about being bad per se. For as you can see...you can achieve all those things without being a 'bad boy'....
