@Slappy Doo Hoo,
Slappy, you have a lot to say. Some of it correct and a lot of it actually way off the mark.....take it from a woman.....it depends upon what sort of relationship you want. Do you want to just get your rocks off, or do you want the difference in the cot with a woman you really respect, admire, can intellectually engage with and would want in your life for a long time, if not for good. There's a saying "if she's hard to kiss, she's worth the wait". In short, instead of regarding women as sex objects, regard them as human beings with a brain. There are three parts to a women (in man speak) brain, boobs, bits. Start at the top and don't work down but spend the most time investing in part 1, the brain.