InTraNsiTiOn wrote:shari6905 wrote: Reguardless of whether I like women or men or both if I am uncomfortable with something sexually, that should be respected by my partner whatever gender. .
Totally, but some people don't get that concept! Good advise!
Yup. Exactly.
Wondering how the original poster is doing now?
I really think you're getting hung up on the "heterosexual act" part. Her overriding point seems to be, she has no interest in penises or penis substitutes. If she has no interest in it, she has no interest in it, period. It doesn't indicate any pathology or anything she needs to get over, certainly not to the point of seeking professional help.
Note, she's not saying that nobody should ever use strap-ons, she's saying SHE's not interested. And is willing to find someone else if her girlfriend can't deal with that. As in, if her girlfriend really wants to do the strap-on thing, td8181 is willing to let her do it -- with someone else.
By the way, you are now again contradicting you statement that, "I never said that ANYTHING was wrong with her." If you think nothing is wrong with her, why does she need professional help?
sozobe, get a grip. smile!
flushd wrote:InTraNsiTiOn wrote:shari6905 wrote: Reguardless of whether I like women or men or both if I am uncomfortable with something sexually, that should be respected by my partner whatever gender. .
Totally, but some people don't get that concept! Good advise!
Yup. Exactly.
Wondering how the original poster is doing now?
Probably reading your responses and rolling on the floor laughing.
Roxxxanne wrote:I think what she needs is to start watching porn everyday and ask her gf to "trade-in" the black one for a pink one. If she still thinks something is wrong with being penetrated with a pink strap-on and thinks it is a hetereosexual act then she really should seek professional help. And not from frustrated, desperate housewives from Kansas with too much time on their hands and no insight.
OK
You have officially exposed yourself as a troll.
Not going to waste my time with you anymore.
Chai Tea wrote:Roxxxanne wrote:I think what she needs is to start watching porn everyday and ask her gf to "trade-in" the black one for a pink one. If she still thinks something is wrong with being penetrated with a pink strap-on and thinks it is a hetereosexual act then she really should seek professional help. And not from frustrated, desperate housewives from Kansas with too much time on their hands and no insight.
OK
You have officially exposed yourself as a troll.
Not going to waste my time with you anymore.
You have officially exposed yourself as someone who can't take a joke and can't perceive the direction this thread has taken since our gay damsel in distress took a powder.
Gee, I hope so Rox. I hope she is having a good time wherever she is.
Here, Roxxxanne, have a penis-shaped-chocolate....
Well that would cost me too many points. (I am on weight watchers) Being chocalate, I am sure it is more than just a couple bites!
Sounds yummy though!
Roxxxanne wrote:
It's laughable that straight married women living in "Kansas" think they can give advice on a complex Lesbian issue.
It's laughable that you think that this issue is somehow different between two women as it would be between a man and a woman.
You've obviously missed the whole point, which doesn't suprise me.
Roxxxanne wrote:It is obviously deeper than that (no pun intended) otherwise she wouldn't be desperate enough to sek advice from married straight women from Winnipeg.
You act like you have good advice for her.
shari6905 wrote:I may be chiming in too late here but maybe it shoulnt even be about the lesbian thing. I just look at it as if it were me. Reguardless of whether I like women or men or both if I am uncomfortable with something sexually, that should be respected by my partner whatever gender. Although in that same aspect it is healthy to push your own sexual boundaries, but thats when your ready. Not for anyone else to decide.
I said it before and I'll echo you now. This isn't a lesbian thing. It's a respect thing between two lovers.
Sure, but in terms of basic relationship issues, there is as much variation between pairs of lesbians as there is among pairs of heteros. One pair of lesbians is all for kinkiness and experimentation, another pair of lesbians prefers to keep things more vanilla, another pair has separate preferences and need to bridge that gap or move on; and all of the above for three pairs of heterosexual couples, too.
It's not just a pure equipment thing.
Oh. Where'd Chumly's second post go? (That's what I was replying to...)
In answer to your thoughtful post I agree, there is the purely physical and the purely mental and everything that falls between those two "idealized" extremes. By "idealized" I do not mean perfect, I mean exempt from.
But clearly, in a sexual relationship, the purely physical will have an impact on the mental (note I did not say purely mental).
My point is that very rarely are any of us in the exact position of the person we are advising; and I don't think the exact experience is necessary to advise. There are certain things that translate across various divides.
One of them is, if you are terribly uncomfortable with doing something sexual, don't feel compelled to do it. This is no value judgement on the sexual practice in question. If two people want to do it with each other, groovy, pretty much no matter what "it" is.
Quit being so reasonable and *making* me agree with you. I get *terribly uncomfortable* when you are right
