A Q for the women Re: Breast Reduction

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Hi all.

I'm 26 and I have large breasts *introduces self in big-breasts-anon fashion*
I have suffered back pains since I was a teen. At 22 my back got so bad I was bed-bound and put on painkillers for a few months stretch. The pain almost never goes away. It is always there.

I'm 5'2 and 107 lbs. I exercise, I eat well. I take care of my back: regular massages, relaxation exercises. I am very fit: so I know it is not because of weak muscles or poor posture. My boobs are just too big for my little frame.

I have an appointment on October 27 to go in for a breast reduction. That's one month away! Here's my problem.....

My doctor gave me okay to do this, and actually recommended it when I was younger (21). I went to see the specialist, I had the appointment set up, and on the day of the surgury I 'ran away'. I just didn't show up. I got terrified, and became a total loon. My friends could not drag me there: I was yelling and refused to go.

I have thought long and hard about this. For many many years. I don't want the pain anymore. I know it will be good for me; physically and mentally (I could wear normal clothes!).
I have been obsessing about this lately. I'm scared. Though I can see it as something I want, there is a part of me that doesn't want to do it.

I need some insight. I haven't been sleeping. I have been avoiding going out because of this. As weird as this sounds, I like my body and my breasts exactly the way they are. I'm worried I won't feel like myself anymore, and that I will regret it or have a hard time adjusting. I'm worried I won't like it.
Once it is done, it's done. I can't turn back.

What do y'all think? Has anyone gone through this or have any experience with this?

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More than 50 years ago, my aunt--5' 1", 110 pounds, D-cup had breast reduction surgery and was absolutely delighted with the result. No more backaches. She could bend over the typewriter to erase without depressing the space bar. Spills in the kitchen landed on the floor or her lap, not on her frontage.

flushd--

You're getting a breast reduction, not a mastectomy. No one is going to start calling you "Slats" or "Twiggy". You'd be a damn fool to have your cerebral hemispheres reduced, but losing a few ounces of mammary tissue is not going to diminish your personality.

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sorry, I haven't personally flushd, but I know a little of what you're talking about.....

I'm not REAL big, but I have been, shall we say, more blessed than most.

I developed early and hated having leachers as old as your father gawking at you.

That is SO creepy, and no joke. Although I'm sure they'll be forthcoming.

I've always understood someone who wanted to have them reduced, not just because of the back pain, but the sexualization of them.

Personally, I have never understood women wanting them made bigger.

I love it when they say stuff like, "I wanted to feel better about myself", well, read a book, learn a 2nd language, then you'll feel better about yourself.

Go for it, the part that doesn't want to do it is the totally human part of you that doesn't like change.

If you're to the point you don't want others to see you, you need to do something so you can rejoin the human race.

But, what do I know?

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Oh lord, I feel like a fool now.

Thanks Noddy, Chai. You two made me smile.

I think part of it is the sheer fright of getting surgery. I hate surgery. I don't really feel so comfortable with the idea of pieces of me being cut off.
Some people are terrified of doctors; I'm terrified of 'going under'. I've had some surgery before; but they were removing unhealthy tissue. I don't know. I'm just really freaked out by it.

Maybe I should ask my friend to stay with me before the surgery and maybe drug me up so I can't run! Because I think Chai is absolutely right in saying it is me resisting change.

Anyways, I do have to do something to rejoin the human race. I get so stressed out and paranoid about things; and become hermit-like. Its not good.

thanks

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any time.

and don't feel like a fool, I've Never been put under and would be terrified.

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Flushd--

Would it be fair to say that you resent situations when you're not in complete control?

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flushd, I had a friend undergo the operation. Her one stated wish was that they put the nipples back on facing up. Seemed reasonable.

Good luck.

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A young friend of mine, when we worked together several years ago, would come into my office and lie on the floor. Her large heavy breasts reeked havoc on her back and the pain was more than she wanted to endure for the rest of her life so, six months before her wedding, she had the surgery done and ordered her wedding gown, a slinky halter. She looked wonderful on her wedding day and never regretted the surgery.

Of course I'm just guessing but perhaps your reluctance is due to too much of your self-esteem being tied into your breasts and the attention they must get? Surely there's more to you than those, right?

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Flushd--

Would it be fair to say that you resent situations when you're not in complete control?

That's quite true. I'm an aggressive type personality. When something is completely out of my hands : when I have to trust someone completely with something as important as this....Yikes! I just wish I could be awake and watch or something. My other surgery I was able to be somewhat conscious for; and that calmed me a lot.

Thanks Joe!

eoe: You brought up something that has been lurking in my mind a bit, but I hate to think that I have such shallow aspects to myself.
However; yeah, there is a certain part of my identity that is tied up with my breasts. I have been like this for a long time; it shaped a lot of my experiences in regards to sports, others, and my own view of my body.
It's not so much my self-esteem; more who I see myself to be and know my body to be. It will be a big adjustment; I feel.
Anyhow, thanks for the comment.

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I appreciate how you're feeling. The only personal experience i have along these lines is when I quit smoking. Part of the reason it took me so long to make up my mind to do it was the realization that, altho it's a nasty habit and I wanted to get rid of it, I'd been smoking for almost thirty years and cigarettes were a part of who I was, part of my personality, part of my character, part of my cool, and I actually wondered who I would be without them but guess what? I was the same person, just tobacco and addiction-free and what could be better than that?

Have the surgery. Being pain-free would feel like a miracle and just being able to wear clothing that was forbidden before should be a major kick for a long, long time.

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I knew a woman who had this surgery - she was also delighted by the results. But, I know what you're feeling, to some degree.

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oh god, I just thought of that movie - Fight Club.

remember how they would steal the ladies "ass fat" and render it into soap, and sell it back to them.
Shocked

that was great.

let's see, excess breast tissue.....

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Chai Tea--

Consider for an hour or so delegating authority. Sure, you could do the operation yourself, but working in a mirror it would be easy to achieve an asymetrical result.

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I'll be sure to make up a batch o' soap. One bar for Chai: the rest I can sell via the internet! Right on. One more reason to do this.

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Flushd, I think you need to just go for it. And feel better in the end.

I'm rather ample in that area myself. But I'm not petite as you, therefore I'm not enduring any pain from it. So I can only imagine what your going through. I'm sure its hard to deal with. You have my sympathy.

But I do believe, that once you have totally made up your mind that its what you want, you will be happy with the end results, and feel so good about yourself and your new image, you'll be proud you done it.

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Between now and La Operation, why not encourage some of your bad habits to migrate into that tissue which will be excised?

That way when the surgeon cuts, s/he'll be removing a little procrastination and a little impulsiveness and a little....

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Thanks for the support so much everyone!! Exclamation

I went out for coffee this morning with a friend; and I tried visualizing what it would be like if I was sitting there chatting, ordering food, etc. as though my surgery were already done. I''m actually starting to get psyched about it. I brought it up with her; and she said " yes, just go for it. You have wanted it for so long! " She has promised to go bra shopping with me after it is done. That gives me something to look forward to! Well, other than just being able to sit without constantly readjusting my posture! Very Happy

Great idea, Nod. This could be a great chance to work on all of me: my mental health especially. I'm sure once it's over I will get a supercharge of self-confidence, but i want it to be genuine and real. I'm starting to really notice how much I hide certain parts of me behind my boobs. That's sad; but true.

So much to think about and do...but I just want to say I appreciate you gals so much! It's wonderful and is helping a lot. Very Happy

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I'm glad I could help.

Are you going to have an A2K farewell party for the extra flesh?

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Ooooo. Bra shopping. How much fun will that be? I had foot surgery about four years ago. Corns and bunion removed, callous removed, I was painfree for the first time in twenty years and let me tell you...I still get a thrill at purchasing high heels and in the summer, high heeled sandals with all of my toes exposed. For so long i did not/could not wear any shoes like that, not only for esthetic reasons (ugly toes) but for comfort reasons as well. Now tho...

You're in for a good time. Victoria's Secret is waiting for you.

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I'd love to celebrate this removal of extra fat!

Oooo yeah eoe; that must have been exciting getting some sexy shoes ! I'm going to get some PRETTY bras when this is done. It is so difficult to find sexy, pretty bras in the larger sizes. You can find some; but they rarely look any good once I put them on. Many a times I have found a bra I loved; only to find out it 1) doesn't come in my size 2) looks silly or doesn't 'do the job'.
:wink:

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