In answer to your question, Dlowan, I found this:
http://psychology.about.com/library/weekly/aa022001d.htm
Quote:Romantic Love and Attachment Styles
Attachment Style: Avoidant
An estimated 25% of the people in romantic relationships do not feel comfortable being close to their partners. They do not allow themselves to become reliant on their partners and feel nervous when other people get too close to them.
I think that is me to a tee. But the question is, why?
Quote:
Characteristics of this attachment style include:
Less invested in relationships
Show less grief following loss
Prefers to work alone
Withdraws from partner when partner or self is stressed
Do not like self-disclosure by self and others
Unable to remember relationships well
Hostile/hateful when provoked
More likely to be atheist/agnostic; "born again" religious experience during adolescence if mother was not religious
Have death anxiety but tend not to reveal it directly
When observing people with the avoidant attachment style, psychologists have noticed a certain inconsistency across the group. For example, some avoidants have higher self-esteem than others and they are less dependent. Researchers call this type of avoidants the "dismissing avoidants". The other group, the "fearful avoidants", fail to bond with others often due to lack of self-confidence and fear of rejection, but not lack of conscious attachment desire.
Yep, I lack self-confidence and I fear rejection. So how do I fix that?
And what about you? What is
your attachment style?
