What if your child as an adult, worked in the porn industry?

I was pointing out the difference between my baseline reaction (probably quite negative) and being-told-by-experts-that-it's-especially-dangerous-for-him reaction (much more negative).

You and what army? I'd like to see you try!

I was pointing out the fact that you don't need an expert to tell you it is especially dangerous for him. But I get what you're saying.

I m not sure i can answer that.
I am not even sure WHY i suppport that idea. But I do... ?

this one

and this one

me too...
can you two slap on a little oil before hand?

OK, now you're starting to creep me out....

I don't agree that the porn industry does not harm anyone. In fact, I think it harms a whole **** load of people, including the people doing the porn, their families, friends, not to mention the thousands of relationships/marriages it destroys every single day.

but .. why?

if you go back in human history about ..ehh.. a thousand years?
sex was diffrent. There wasnt alot of 'inhibitions' and rules behind it .
Women were constantly having multiple partners, men too.
so why is it today in OUR society,this type of sex is wrong, distasteful and disrespectful?

>just throwing that out there....<

Well, because I wasn't around to bitch about it back then ;-)

I don't think sex is wrong. I simply think it's something that should be special between two people who love eachother.

Again, the question that no one will answer.

But why?

i am not sure there IS an answer..
maybe just societies rules.
That is the only answer we have?

MONTANA! I don't want to hijack this thread but we have a new comer in the Gotti thread....

Because

Heehee. On my way :-)

I think the discussion about casual sex is a bit of a red herring here; while opinions vary on whether that is fine, distasteful, immoral - that isn't really the question, to me.

I think the question is about one's approval of selling sex, in general, and then specifically about one's children, however adult in age, doing that.

You know that ex-husband I had that I hate to bring up but sometimes he's pertinent to the story?

The one I found out AFTER we were married that he had been a male prostitute on the streets of new york all through his teenage years?

Well, I did know what he was currently doing for a living when I married him, but at first didn't give it much thought.

He worked for a guy who owned about 10 porno magazines, some straight, some gay. He was in the production department, doing graphics, colorization, whatever.......probably close to what kicky is/was doing

Since I rarely went by where he worked, and he never expressed any personal interest in pornography, it just was another job.....
He made really great money too......This was back in I'd say 1989ish, and AFTER taxes he was bringing home about 80K a year. Don't ask me where that all went, that's another story.

Then, after a few months though, I would visit him at work and ask questions.
I asked him where they got these people from.

I learned the long chain that exists, with the person who ends up in the photos at the bottom of the heap.

The word Porn Star has been mentioned. Unfortunatley, that is not typical.

More the norm is a guy walking around with a camera, who when he see's a strung out hooker, pays her maybe 20 bucks to pose in some sleazy hotel for about 10 minutes.

It's not about people who "like sex" and choose to do this.....

I always get pissed when I hear that pornography is a victimless crime...there are definately victims.
Yeah, they're only hookers and drug addicts, but this person who gets a few bucks for sticking it in the camera doesn't know where it's going from there.

If my ex was making that kind of money each year off 20 dollar photo shoots, imagine what all the people in between him and the "porn star" is making.....and imagine how much his boss made.....

This is the typical pornography scenerio, not the exception. It really is a degrading life.

I'd do everything in my power to keep anyone's child from doing that for a "living"

the one's who make enough money to support them the rest of their lives, and stay of drugs and other stuff, are few.