What if your child as an adult, worked in the porn industry?

shewolfnm wrote:

Ok, so what if thekid came from a very GOOD home, great parenting , wonderful education etc..

was raped by someone outside of their family/friend circle sometime in life

returned to this great family setting where all was done right for them
and they STILL turned to the porn inustry?

is THAT still a parenting failure?

I don't think that is a realistic senario. If the person had all the support they needed and the parents did everything right then I don't think they would turn to porn.

And yes... I'd be pissed if it was my son, too.

i pointed this out because my friend is claiming that she has done nothing wrong for her son , but he was sexually abused, and that he shouldnt be turning to porn.
I told her pretty much exactly the things that were said in this thread. Most of all that he had to learn SOMEWHERE , it was ok to choose money for sex..
and that , that kind of choice is pretty deep seeded in a person and doesnt just spring up from one single incident....

I imagine that most of the meaningless sex is an attempt to be close, even if for a short time, to another human being.

Porn is about being de-humanized.

I am the only one who thinks that (while not a wholeyhealthy career choice) this is not a 100% unhealthy choice.

Why is is so wrong to just have sex? Seriously. That's what this is about here. Having sex that has no emotion. Why does sex always have to be about "connection" and "love". Who said sex can't be without the human emotions? I have no problems with prostitutes. If that's a career they choose, so be it. Why do these people have to be catagorized as molested children with no direction and bad choice making? Why do we have to lable them as bad when clearly this is a profession that has been around the longest and will remain around. How can something this bad stay around for so long and prosper? The sex industry is huge. While I'd be uncomfortable personally with a son or daughter in porn, why do you have to make these people out to be wrong in the head or misguided or lacking in love or molested?

DrewDad wrote:

Porn is about being de-humanized.

Absolutly not. Sometimes, yes. Sometimes, no.

And, for the sometimes no, don't yu have to wonder what desensitization took place to decide that sex with a stranger just for the sake of sex is a good thing?

And, for the sometimes no, don't yu have to wonder what desensitization took place to decide that sex with a stranger just for the sake of sex is a good thing?

I am the only one who thinks that (while not a wholeyhealthy career choice) this is not a 100% unhealthy choice.

Why is is so wrong to just have sex? Seriously. That's what this is about here. Having sex that has no emotion. Why does sex always have to be about "connection" and "love". Who said sex can't be without the human emotions?

We just want to get down and f-k right?
Well, why cant that be done outside of a relationship?
It is the same desire.. same feelings and the same outcome is the purpose.. right?

Bella Dea wrote:

DrewDad wrote:

Porn is about being de-humanized.

Absolutly not. Sometimes, yes. Sometimes, no.

oh my.. we dont agree.. :-)
this'll be pretty cool..


Ok, so if porn isnt about the fantasy of being de huminized , being made in to a sex slave .. and all about the ' money' shot...
what can it be about?

I mean.. i agree.. it isnt 100% about that. No way..
but the majority is..
It plays into the fantasy of male dominance, and the fantasy of a woman being always ready willing and sometimes anal.. ( PUN intended )

so try imagining that your husband decided to make a career change. He tells you it would just be sex, not love or anything and the money is really great.

Would that be okay?

No. Within a relationship you have trust. You have the knowledge that the person cares about you, loves you and respects you.

Outside of a relationship, where it is just sex for the sake of feeling good, there is no respect, trust or love.

Bella, I don't know that you have children, so try imagining that your husband decided to make a career change. He tells you it would just be sex, not love or anything and the money is really great.

Would that be okay?

Outside of a relationship, where it is just sex for the sake of feeling good, there is no respect, trust or love.