Oh I am sorry, I did not see your post in between to JPB where you explained
what is troubling sozlet.
Jane has been a tomboy from day one and she also has had (and still has)
boy friends. She's had an altercation with some girls just a few weeks back
and all of them were sent to the principal. There is a fair amount of jealousy
among girls that age and older. They notice that the pretty girls (which sozlet is) get more attention, including boy friendships, and the only way they know
how to act out is to tease and exclude these girls.
Jane was very popular in 4th grade and in mid year a new girl came to the
class who rather quickly became very popular too. The entire class was divided into two sides all of a sudden and the bickering and fighting became a huge problem as it spilled over into the classroom. We (parents, teacher) had to sit down with both girls and come up with solutions so both girls can
be popular on equal terms and share the popularity. They each got
assignments to write down daily (diary) what bothered them about the other resp. what they liked and every day after school they exchanged the diary
and read what the other had to say. It was a simple solution, but it worked
and in the end, Jane and the other girl became good friends.