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Does my female boss have a huge crush on me?

 
 
Reply Thu 16 Mar, 2023 04:58 pm
We've had two meetings before I got hired and it was like we already knew each other... Anyway, first day on the job she allowed me to use her office and when I looked her into her eyes and said: "I wish you a nice vacation" She bursted out laughing. I did not expect that..

She replied that she will do some quick stuff and come by and say goodbye to me a second time.

There was an earlier incident in which she stopped me and started conversing about the job, unrelated to me however, smiled and twirled her hair. Flirty!!

She also stopped wearing her wedding ring my first day on the job.

Is there any way she doesn't have a crush? It's a lot that happened in one day lol
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jespah
 
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Reply Fri 17 Mar, 2023 06:23 am
@Userr3989,
Oh, you sweet summer child.

She's your boss.

I assure you that she will do nothing to jeopardize her position.
Userr3989
 
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Reply Fri 17 Mar, 2023 07:37 am
@jespah,
Then why did she ditch her wedding ring?
tsarstepan
 
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Reply Fri 17 Mar, 2023 07:46 am
@Userr3989,
Userr3989 wrote:

Then why did she ditch her wedding ring?

Probably and literally NONE OF YOUR DAMN BUSINESS? Don't read into things that could wrongfully lead to you sexually harassing your boss.
Userr3989
 
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Reply Fri 17 Mar, 2023 08:05 am
@tsarstepan,
"Don't you want to close your office?"

"oh, I don't have anything to hide, and the dirty secrets that I do have are locked".

That's a flirtatous conversation invite. I didn't bite...
tsarstepan
 
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Reply Fri 17 Mar, 2023 08:10 am
@Userr3989,
All I can say is...? Keep documenting everything and then report any more aggressive/obvious behavior to human resources as potential harassment.
Userr3989
 
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Reply Fri 17 Mar, 2023 08:15 am
@tsarstepan,
Would the example I gave above constitute as such?
tsarstepan
 
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Reply Fri 17 Mar, 2023 09:04 am
@Userr3989,
I'm not an attorney and technically we aren't allowed to proffer legal advice here (per the terms of service). But probably not. From what you said, it seems to be on the border but not quite there.

Start familiarizing yourself with the sexual harassment reporting procedures (the whos and hows) in your office. Hopefully, you won't be needing them.
Userr3989
 
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Reply Fri 17 Mar, 2023 09:18 am
@tsarstepan,
Is it fair to say that she's not happy with her marriage when she replies to ""have a nice vacation" with a massive laugh, from a serious face before I said it? I thought she would say something trivial about it or about her husband.

It seemed sad to me that she reacted that way. Almost like laughing over sadness. She's not generally nervous around me.
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Frank Apisa
 
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Reply Fri 17 Mar, 2023 10:49 am
@Userr3989,
Userr3989 wrote:

We've had two meetings before I got hired and it was like we already knew each other... Anyway, first day on the job she allowed me to use her office and when I looked her into her eyes and said: "I wish you a nice vacation" She bursted out laughing. I did not expect that..

She replied that she will do some quick stuff and come by and say goodbye to me a second time.

There was an earlier incident in which she stopped me and started conversing about the job, unrelated to me however, smiled and twirled her hair. Flirty!!

She also stopped wearing her wedding ring my first day on the job.

Is there any way she doesn't have a crush? It's a lot that happened in one day lol



I don't agree with the good folks advising you so far, Userr.

Sounds to me like she is really nuts about you...and wants you to know that. What else would account for the removal of the wedding ring?

What you should do is take her up on her subtle "invitation." Go into her office, look endearingly into her eyes, then reach around and close the door. (Hopefully, there are no windows.) Go back to her after closing the door, preferably with a sly, knowing smile on your face, embrace her and give her a healthy, wet kiss.

Whata got to lose?
Mame
 
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Reply Fri 17 Mar, 2023 10:51 am
@Frank Apisa,
ha ha ha
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Userr3989
 
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Reply Fri 17 Mar, 2023 12:17 pm
@Frank Apisa,
I love her too.

Nuts huh?
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Userr3989
 
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Reply Fri 17 Mar, 2023 12:34 pm
@Frank Apisa,
"What else would account for the removal of the wedding ring?"

She had a quick doctor check up that day. Does that explain it?

We'll see after her vacation.
Mame
 
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Reply Fri 17 Mar, 2023 04:00 pm
@Userr3989,
Stop reading things into nothing. Maybe she was getting her ring resized. I don't always wear mine and it's not because I'm looking for some action. Maybe her laughing was at something she had planned for the vacation. How you could interpret that as interest is ridiculous.

You need to get over yourself.
Userr3989
 
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Reply Fri 17 Mar, 2023 04:18 pm
@Mame,
I am not talking about getting some action. It feels like my soulmate is pranking me as my boss. She frequently laughs out loud to me and is a complete puppy. Let's me sit in her office first day. Flirts with her body language. And it's been like this since our first interview. She said herself that it was a very special meeting.
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Userr3989
 
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Reply Fri 17 Mar, 2023 04:36 pm
@Mame,
"Maybe she was getting her ring resized."

Yeah right, that just so happened to coincide with my first day with her on the job.

She also just so happened to start being flirty that day. And her perfume was very strong and seductive (smelled fantastic).

I think she is trying to lure me in and the problem is that I adore her. I can't see how we are going to work together, but I don't know how we are supposed to be seperated either. I'm sold on her personality. She's everything you would want in another human being.

I don't think her husband stands a chance.
Region Philbis
 
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Reply Fri 17 Mar, 2023 04:39 pm
@Userr3989,

if i were you, i would look for another job.

this will not end well...
Userr3989
 
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Reply Fri 17 Mar, 2023 04:43 pm
@Region Philbis,
"if i were you, i would look for another job.

this will not end well..."

Okey, but would you mind answering the topic question?
Region Philbis
 
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Reply Fri 17 Mar, 2023 04:57 pm
@Userr3989,

it's not appropriate for you to ask her if she has a crush on you or not.

try to picture the worst case scenario --

you make your move only to find out that she's repulsed.

if she doesn't fire you on the spot, would you really want to stay at that job?
Userr3989
 
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Reply Fri 17 Mar, 2023 05:00 pm
Our first interview was like a date. I literally asked her to start asking question.. She was the one promoting herself to me. It made no sense. I loved her but it was like: why the do we meet here, soulbabe..?

Second interview she looked intimidated and couldn't take on the role of authority. But I made her laugh out loud twice hehe.

And then we signed the contract.

Again, I adore her but I need to get out of this somehow and still have her. She's awesome, just completely wrong to act as my superior.
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