JLLLLLL wrote:Bella Dea wrote:Some women think income is important just like some guys think size DD breasts are important. Generalizing either of the sexes on what they want in a mate is just silly and you will get nowhere.
So my statement is true that most if not all females look for the big bank role in the wallet. whats in your wallet. thats from a commercial.
How is my statement validating yours? I said some. Just like some people like spaghetti and some don't.
JLLLLLL wrote:Bella Dea wrote:JLLLLLL wrote:Bella Dea wrote:JLLLLLL wrote:Bella Dea wrote:There is no job with a guarantee.
bet you wouldnt date a guy that makes less then you do say he worked at a car wash but was a really good guy just that he worked at a carwash bet you wouldnt date him.
No I wouldn't because I'm married.
But if my husband lost his job, I wouldn't love him any less. It's called an adult relationship and a marriage.
Are you saying that working at a car wash isn't honest work?
Iam saying is that if you were not married now and you had the job or all jobs and there was this good looking hunk at the car wash and he made a pass at you, you would kick him to the curb because he didnt match up to your expectations of a male with good enough bank in his wallet for you to even look at twice no matter his looks.
Of course not. If he's hot, I'd talk to him. If I liked him, we'd go out. If it went well, we'd see from there. And that is exactly what happened when I met my hubby. I didn't care what he did.
so when you met him was he making more than you. or were you both in the same finicial status
Both broke. We were college students. My parents were better off than his so I guess you could say I had more money because my parents sent me money.
Bella Dea wrote:JLLLLLL wrote:Bella Dea wrote:JLLLLLL wrote:Bella Dea wrote:JLLLLLL wrote:Bella Dea wrote:There is no job with a guarantee.
bet you wouldnt date a guy that makes less then you do say he worked at a car wash but was a really good guy just that he worked at a carwash bet you wouldnt date him.
No I wouldn't because I'm married.
But if my husband lost his job, I wouldn't love him any less. It's called an adult relationship and a marriage.
Are you saying that working at a car wash isn't honest work?
Iam saying is that if you were not married now and you had the job or all jobs and there was this good looking hunk at the car wash and he made a pass at you, you would kick him to the curb because he didnt match up to your expectations of a male with good enough bank in his wallet for you to even look at twice no matter his looks.
Of course not. If he's hot, I'd talk to him. If I liked him, we'd go out. If it went well, we'd see from there. And that is exactly what happened when I met my hubby. I didn't care what he did.
so when you met him was he making more than you. or were you both in the same finicial status
Both broke. We were college students. My parents were better off than his so I guess you could say I had more money because my parents sent me money.
COLLEGE students they do get their money from their parents they dont think of money they got parents to foot the bill they know not of real life on their own until they have been on their on for a while. the bottom line is that females choose the mates mostly because whats in the wallet and how much income they can bring into the table thats why so many females have lovers on the side because the lure of all that income like on the tv show desperate house wives the woman who is cheating with the young gardner thats the way it is they get the guy with all the money then end up doing the handy man on the side. and they wont give up the money so they keep the cheating on the side.
JLLLLLL, you do need to watch less tv. It isn't real life.
Money IS very important to many women when they're looking for a partner.
Read online personals, it's firsthand proof. Even though they usually don't come out and say "looking for rich guy," you'll often read they're looking for (key words) "motivated," "secure," "has good job," ect.
I can tell you every girlfriend I've had has shown at mininum some inkling of gold-digging. My last ex, who is very intelligent and hard-working, told me some day she wanted to become a housewife and stop working. Another girlfriend told me she didn't think I was very stable(she didn't mean emotionally)...she had no clue, of course, I was making twice as much as her(my little rule, I never tell women what I make). When I had BMW's, women would comment on them all the time..."how can you afford this(uh, because they're used and weren't very expensive)? What do you do?" I'm pretty sure the cars contributed to banging a couple girls. Granted, I know a lot of women aren't this shallow, but I was surprised how many were.
How many women enter marriages, have kids, then never return to work, because that's the life they're "entitled" to? Not all...but a lot.
Look at divorces...who makes out? Divorce courts are set up to absolutely screw men. Women get paid alimony, usually end up with custody, and child support payments, while the guy takes on all her debt and loses his assets. Even if she makes as much, she can get money for emotional neglect or abuse. It's crap.
I love women, but I'm never signing a contract stating she's getting half when it doesn't work out.
Re: IS THE FEMALE REALLY CAPABLE OF TRUE LOVE
JLLLLLL wrote:I have been looking at different shows like maurey and opraha and phill and all ive seen is the female, me me me me all about her and not about someone else. at times iam convinced that the female species of the human race dosent love just use and gather for her needs and no one else like the story samson and delia it was all about her. and the greed of the female. are there stories of a female that hooked up with a male not for whats in his pocket but whats in his heart if so tell me aboout it,ide like to hear so i can fell better about the female part of the human race not just thinking that their only money groobers.
I had to think about this a long time before responding the content was so belligerent, but in actuality, I feel that females are more capable of love than men are. And the reason why that is? Females are brought up that way from birth. While boys are taught to take, dominate and control, girls are taught to love and accept. That is just how society is. Think about this before you say women are incapable of love. Women are more accepting of a man's flaws. If he loses his hair, or gains weight. Women can love a man more for who he is. Men are so much more visual that they have to love who they see, before they can love who they are with. Why do you think there are so many tv sitcoms on the air, where the male character is overweight, and not very attractive, but his wife/girlfriend is a thin hottie? That's because women are more accepting. So how many tv sitcoms can you think of where the woman was overweight and unattractive with a studly husband? I am guessing 0. Television is based on what goes on in society. And yes there are a few women who use their looks to further their own agenda, and this is wrong. But please do not confuse all of woman kind with the actions of a few. But when you think about it, men have been acting this way since the dawn of time. Women are in the infancy stage of this trend.
And for the record, I don't think gender has anything to do with ability to love, so I don't agree with saying women don't truly love.
But there are different roles between genders in society, and most times the financial burden is on the male, or at least ends up that way after a divorce.
JLLLLLL wrote: COLLEGE students they do get their money from their parents they dont think of money they got parents to foot the bill they know not of real life on their own until they have been on their on for a while. the bottom line is that females choose the mates mostly because whats in the wallet and how much income they can bring into the table thats why so many females have lovers on the side because the lure of all that income like on the tv show desperate house wives the woman who is cheating with the young gardner thats the way it is they get the guy with all the money then end up doing the handy man on the side. and they wont give up the money so they keep the cheating on the side.
do you really believe this?
People dont walk around with thier bank statements printed on thier foreheads so how can money play a part in the initial 'meeting' of 2 people?
It is true that there are women and MEN who are gold diggers. More then most people know of or believe. But general rule.. gold diggers are few and far between no matter what sex they are.
Cheating doesnt always have anything to do with income. Income strikes a person on a diffrent level. It doesnt trigger a sexual relationship with someone else. 9 times out of 10 - Lack of emotional, sexual, or physical happiness trigger an affair.
just for the record.. me and mr wolf were never on the same financial page. I always made almost double what he did. That never came into play in our relationship at ALL until it was bill time. Simply because halfing all bills with him would have broke him. So i took on more bills then he did. That didnt change a THING in our relationship.Still doesnt. Even though I do not work now.
Re: IS THE FEMALE REALLY CAPABLE OF TRUE LOVE
JLLLLLL wrote:I have been looking at different shows like maurey and opraha and phill and all ive seen is the female, me me me me .
Take a good hard look at where you are drawing your information from
(oprah, maury, dr phil..??! )
and you will realize why you are finding are crap.
Agreed. Daytime talk shows? I would have thought more of this post if it just had of been your opinion. But Dr. Phill? Do you really consider that to be a reliable source of information? For the record, I dated men who delivered pizzas for a living, worked as a dishwasher, a recovering heroin addict who worked in a doggie daycare facitlity and a man who worked for a non-profit and made next to nothing. I am now married to a man who works the help desk and doesn't make a lot of money and I really don't give a hoot. Maybe the reason why men think women are only interested in money is because men are only interested in women who look like supermodels. They are not interested in the plain jane woman with a huge heart who would love them dearly. They want the impossible beauty that will make other men envious. You get what you wish for in most circumstances. When you base your decision on shallow intentions, guess what? You get shallowness in return!
Bella Dea wrote:JLLLLLL, you do need to watch less tv. It isn't real life.
OH yes it is real life when girls get together thats what they do oh hes not good looking enouogh oh look he dont have on expensive pants those are kalvin kleins not armonie he probely couldnt buy me a soda. i know because ive been around a lot of those ladys ive even had a few to tell me about the guys they use while they get me drinks that he brought ive seen them drain guys wallet and leave them setting like a stupid ive dated girls like this and i know you see it all the time.
I would become gay, if I were you JLLLLLLLLLLLLL, it would save a lot of stress, and you and your partner could keep separate savings accounts, and eventually retire early to a life of luxury.
Lord Ellpus wrote:I would become gay, if I were you JLLLLLLLLLLLLL, it would save a lot of stress, and you and your partner could keep separate savings accounts, and eventually retire early to a life of luxury.
ALOT OF STRESS. iam a ladys man i just want the one that i will spend the rest of my life with most of the ladys that i meet are shallow and money groobers even tho i dont have that clout they tell me all about their adventures with men who have that green back and tell me about the things they get from them me will pay for that affection me i let them tell me about it and reap the bennies like the money they get from them they will spend on me dinners and stuff. i all ways ask are you doing anything with these men most say no some yes a little but just touching and petting i say right iam no fool and they wont get no duckies from me and they know it.
You really think becoming gay will weed out a bad person? Then I have some gay friends that you should talk to that will tell hair raising stories of the men that took their money and cheated on them. Bad character has no boundaries and doesn't dicriminate. But might I suggest not dating as a viable option. Don't throw your hat into the ring, then we have nothng to read about here. I for one am for that.
JLLLLLLLLL, Just out of interest, old boy.....do you drink a lot of coffee, perchance?
alakritz wrote:You really think becoming gay will weed out a bad person? Then I have some gay friends that you should talk to that will tell hair raising stories of the men that took their money and cheated on them. Bad character has no boundaries and doesn't dicriminate. But might I suggest not dating as a viable option. Don't throw your hat into the ring, then we have nothng to read about here. I for one am for that.
'Twas an attempt at humour, that sadly fell flat. Nothing more.
Bella Dea wrote:JLLLLLL, you do need to watch less tv. It isn't real life.
i love shows like cheaters, elimidate, the gilmore girls they all ways look for the guy who hads the milions not the good guy whos not making that much and drug heads are a no no any way thats another thing ive dated for about a day with no sexual contact girls who were dope heads that didnt look the part but as soon as i found out i dump them quick i use to smoke when i was a teen and thats where i left it when i was a teen and i dont date ladys who do, what ever the drug weed or what ever oh booze is ok as long as shes not a drunk.
Lord Ellpus wrote:JLLLLLLLLL, Just out of interest, old boy.....do you drink a lot of coffee, perchance?
no what do that have to do with any thing
JLLLLLL wrote:Lord Ellpus wrote:JLLLLLLLLL, Just out of interest, old boy.....do you drink a lot of coffee, perchance?
no what do that have to do with any thing
It's just that I have read about six of your posts, and have yet to witness a pause.
That is exactly how I speak when I've consumed four strong cups of coffee.
Lord Ellpus wrote:JLLLLLL wrote:Lord Ellpus wrote:JLLLLLLLLL, Just out of interest, old boy.....do you drink a lot of coffee, perchance?
no what do that have to do with any thing
It's just that I have read about six posts, and have yet to witness a pause.
That is exactly how I speak when I've consumed four strong cups of coffee.
let me guess your english right
