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Bizarre dating stories welcomed!

 
 
Reply Fri 26 Jan, 2018 01:40 am
This happened a few years back and I still wonder about it every once and a while.

I met a woman who was 28 years old at a coffee shop that we both went to in the morning. Over the course of 2-3 months we would make small talk standing in line. I always found her attractive but I had been seeing someone for the past few months so didn't ask her out sooner. Finally the relationship I was in came to an end and one morning I told this woman that I enjoyed talking to her and asked for her number. A couple days later I asked her on a date and we met to have drinks. Everything went good and we even kissed at the end of the date.

Three days later we met again on a weeknight and the same thing. We hit it off and at the end of this date, we made out for awhile. When I got home, she texted me "I had a great time, I really like you". I basically texted her back the same. I remember thinking how easy it was to talk to her and I was pretty excited about everything. We made plans to see each other on Saturday which was 4 days away. The next 2 days we texted almost constantly. I only initiated the texts once because I'm not too much into texting. She would ask little things to get to know me better. Do you have siblings? What's your favorite movie? Etc. I would ask her things too.

Thursday night comes. We were talking likes/dislikes and she texted how she likes going to baseball games. Now I joked with her a couple times before this just for the record, but I said "oh no, I don't do baseball, strictly ping pong". She replies something like "I guess we're just too far apart, doesn't look like this is going to work out". I replied with an "lol". Then I asked her something which I forgot, basically just moving the conversation along. I got nothing in return. It was around 9 at night so I thought maybe she dozed off. Next day comes around and I don't hear anything. The last 2 mornings she would open up with "good morning babe". I waited til later in the day and asked "how's your day going?". I got nothing the rest of the day. So the next day which was Saturday (the day we were supposed to see each other) I texted her "hey, hope everythings ok?". Nothing! I gave up at that point.

I figured I'd run into her at the coffee shop the following week and even thought about how awkward that might be. A month went by and I didn't see her at all. I used to see her 2-3 times a week at this coffee shop. I even worried that something bad happened to her. Then finally one morning there she is. So I look at her with a face that probably was puzzled and said "hi, how are you?" She says "I'm good, thank you for asking" and just turns around like I was the cashier at Mcdonalds greeting her. I actually stood there thinking, did that just happen???. That had to be one of the most BIZARRE situations that ever happened in my life.

I remember showing a female friend of mine the texts and she just started laughing. I wanted to get her opinion and thought her being a female might see where something went wrong. She told me I was probably right in thinking that this woman was crazy. At least I found out sooner than later!

Anybody else have bizarre dating stories?
 
Sturgis
 
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Reply Fri 26 Jan, 2018 02:54 pm
@James3270,
It would seem baseball is her bigger passion. Best to get yourself someone who isn't quite so odd.

No bizarre dating stories here Rolling Eyes (and of you buy that...)
James3270
 
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Reply Fri 26 Jan, 2018 03:27 pm
@Sturgis,
Perhaps, but I would really like to think that she thought I was kidding with the ping pong comment. At any rate, just plain weird.
PUNKEY
 
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Reply Fri 26 Jan, 2018 09:56 pm
Did you learn not to get to know someone thru text messages?

You also don't mention whether you noticed any sense of humor when with her in person.
roger
 
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Reply Fri 26 Jan, 2018 10:01 pm
@PUNKEY,
I'm guessing zero sense of humor. Anyway, if she let a comment about ping pong mess up what seemed to be going very well, I would say she's decidedly odd. In fact, I bet she disqualifies lots of guys for bizarre reasons.
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Ragman
 
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Reply Sat 27 Jan, 2018 08:08 am
@James3270,
More than likely it had nothing to do with the ping- pong comment. She either got involved with someone or something else and flaked off. It was just a fling and she moved on. Best that you do too. She was only in it for a fling.

I was once involved with a woman who had no sense of humor and she didn’t get my puns at all. This ways a fatal blow to the relationship as I’m a diehard punster. The fact that she didn’t get my puns was not so bad but she didn’t have any sense of humor at all - not just for my brand of humor.
izzythepush
 
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Reply Sat 27 Jan, 2018 08:29 am
This is a bizarre break up story. I once went out with a girl for about a month after we'd been in a play together. It never really got anywhere because she lived in Fareham and I lived in Southampton and we only got to see each other at the weekend.

One Friday I called her up and she told me she didn't want to see me that weekend. I could see the writing on the wall, and didn't want to leave it another week to find out so I asked if she just couldn't see me that weekend or if she wanted to break up. She told me she wanted to break up.

Now this is the freaky bit, and is no word of a lie. The exact moment she told me she wanted to break up the fuse blew and all the lights in the house went out, like something out of expressionist cinema. I mumbled something like 'everything has gone dark,' and she thought I was taking it really badly. I don't know if she believed me when I told her things had literally gone black, but I never heard from her again so she can't have been that bothered.

I fixed the fuse OK and went down the pub.
chai2
 
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Reply Sat 27 Jan, 2018 06:36 pm
@izzythepush,
izzythepush wrote:


One Friday I called her up and she told me she didn't want to see me that weekend. I could see the writing on the wall, and didn't want to leave it another week to find out so I asked if she just couldn't see me that weekend or if she wanted to break up. She told me she wanted to break up.




I admire that you just directly asked her that.

I also like that she didn't pussyfoot around and admitted it.
izzythepush
 
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Reply Sun 28 Jan, 2018 01:09 am
@chai2,
What about my fuse mending ability? I think that's the most admirable bit of the whole sorry tale.
chai2
 
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Reply Sun 28 Jan, 2018 01:48 am
@izzythepush,
Well yeah, that too.
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James3270
 
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Reply Sun 28 Jan, 2018 10:20 pm
@Ragman,
Dude, tbis was years ago, lol. Never got hung up over it because I didn't know her long enough to have any real feelings. Just sharing a funny dating experience.
James3270
 
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Reply Sun 28 Jan, 2018 10:23 pm
@PUNKEY,
That was her preferred method of communication but I did talk to her a lot at the coffee shop.
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Ragman
 
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Reply Mon 29 Jan, 2018 03:00 am
@James3270,
The fact is that you created a fascinating thread about this and made several comments about it. I’m assuming it still bothers you or you wouldn’t have gone to this sort of trouble querying about it.
James3270
 
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Reply Mon 29 Jan, 2018 02:20 pm
@Ragman,
No, seriously man, I have no issues with it. It's just one of those things that fascinated me. I wanted other people to share their bizarre stories too. No anger, no guilt, no resentment, etc. Just good bizarre stories.
chai2
 
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Reply Mon 29 Jan, 2018 03:10 pm
@James3270,
I've been wondering why you think this is such a "bizarre" story.

I mean, really. The chick didn't want to go out with you, for whatever reason.

No offense, but you must lead a incredibly tame life if this is an example of bizarre to you.

Olivier5
 
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Reply Mon 29 Jan, 2018 03:16 pm
@James3270,
Quote:
No anger, no guilt, no resentment, etc. Just good bizarre stories.


I've got issues with how the thread is framed. One is that 'dating' always sounded very bizarre to me as a concept. I'll take "dating stories" to mean "romance and raunchy stories" or something like that.

The other issue is that each and every one of these stories seems to me unique, special, one of its kind, because the partners are unique. IDK what a 'normal', non-bizarre dating story would be, statistically. A few drinks and a ****? A few kids and a divorce? A life-long partnership?

I'll give you that some romance stories are more ordinary than others though, ie of a more frequent type. So there are "out of ordinary romance stories", if that's what you're talking about.

Olivier5
 
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Reply Mon 29 Jan, 2018 03:28 pm
@chai2,
What's funny -- if indeed it's what happened -- is the idea that a girl would have "must be a baseball fan" as an entry in her checklist for Mr Right, and that she would take seriously his joke about being an exclusive ping-pong fan. I agree it's not particularly "bizarre".
chai2
 
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Reply Mon 29 Jan, 2018 03:28 pm
@Olivier5,
Olivier, re dating, I'm like you. What exactly is "dating"?

I guess I look at it as either just seeing a person or persons casually, as you don't really know each other yet. Within a few of these episodes, you either realize you don't mesh, and cut your losses, or you find you're compatible, and become involved.

Most of the time, I could tell after one meeting (date) if it was going to keep going. I guess there were a couple/few times where I couldn't decide. Looking back, each of those times it ended up being a no go.

chai2
 
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Reply Mon 29 Jan, 2018 03:37 pm
@Olivier5,
Olivier5 wrote:

What's funny -- if indeed it's what happened -- is the idea that a girl would have "must be a baseball fan" as an entry in her checklist for Mr Right, and that she would take seriously his joke about being an exclusive ping-pong fan.


I really didn't pay attention to the ping pong part. I can totally see if you had a real passion for something, like baseball, that could be one of your criteria for someone to spend a significant about of time with.

Me? If I found out someone was anything more than the most casual sports observer, I wouldn't want to start a relationship with them. We would just be too far apart in our general interests and outlook as to how to spend time.

If someone didn't want to see me because they were an avid baseball, or whatever, fan, and I wasn't, I'd be good with that. It means the other person has good insight as to the type of person they want to spend time with.

If I went on a date with someone, and they spent a lot of time talking about religion, or sports, or children, or music, and I saw that as a significant amount of who the person was, I'm sure it would be our last date.

Frankly, I don't think enough people know what they are looking for as a partner or just someone to spend time with, and just sort of put it under the heading of "someone nice"
Olivier5
 
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Reply Mon 29 Jan, 2018 03:49 pm
@chai2,
I believe love has a way to make a lot of "stories" work, and can overcome many odds, including differences about baseball, but it has to be there, in at least one of the protagonist and ideally in both, for some of that magic to happen. Otherwise it's just a form of porn. Which has its own virtues mind you but not quite as magic.
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