@Olivier5,
Olivier5 wrote:
Quote:There are preferences, and there are needs. The woman in question obviously needed someone who enjoyed baseball very much, and that is a need, not a preference. I’m not going to say that’s strange.
Personally, I find it funny. Not strange or bizarre because these things happen all the time, but kind of counter-intuitive. I would never had thought of it on my own. The way I see it, sport is something you do with buddies, not with a sweetheart. Sport is competitive, it breeds disagreements and disputes. I wouldn't want to e.g. take soccer very seriously and root for another team than my partner. That would spell doom for the couple.
I'm evidently fine with you finding it good and proper. There's no need to agree on everything.
Strange, bizarre, funny....all in the same family as far as how you perceive something about another person. As in different enough from you to make note of it.
Who said, in the case of a sports fan, that 2 people involved with each other would be supporting different teams? I would think if someone was a die hard Red Sox fan they wouldn't be going to games with a Yankee fan.
You yourself in the above are setting up your level of acceptability when you say how you view sports. As in something you do/watch with buddies, as opposed to sweethearts.
At the same time, I'm guessing you'd want to be able to spend a signifcant amount of your time with your sweetheart.
Hard perhaps to do if being a sports fan is an important part of what makes you who you are, and if you have always had season tickets, have all the televised games on your calendar, take part in pools, etc etc.
Somehow magic is supposed to make everything all right though, huh? Sounds like both parties are setting themselves up for hard feelings.
Wouldn't it be better to be involved with someone who is at least moderately interested in sports, and desires to attend games and watch them with you?
I didn't say anywhere, BTW, anything about finding something "good and proper" Each person and couple has to find their own way on their own and with each other as to what will work in their relationship.
Sports of course is just an example. What if in the original situation the woman had asked if the OP was a Christian? What if in response he gave what he thought was a lighthearted joke? Turns out she's very devout and he, in her mind, is making fun of something important to her. Doesn't matter if he meant it as an insult, she's not into it.
People spend months looking for the right job, right house to buy. We do research on where to buy our food, cars, where to vacation, what phone plan to buy. But somehow it's a negative to actually examine who we are and what type of person would be most suitable for us. No, that has to be left up to magic, wishful thinking, faith and posting on websites asking complete strangers "what do you think he meant by that"?
Everyone walks into an element of the unknown when meeting an getting to know another person. Once in that environment, it's important to look around and see if you want to stay there. If the neighborhood isn't the one you want to live in, why rent or buy space there?
