Mon 2 Oct, 2017 05:32 pm
Me and my girlfriend been together for over 9 years, only couple of days ago she dropped a bomb shell on me saying she’s been cheating on me with my best friend, my heart sunk, I was heart broken to be hearing this. We met in 2008 till now we still together in 2017. The affair started in 2012 when we met, till 2017 which is over 5 years. I don’t know what to think or to say to her she’s confessed everything to me about the affair such as time, places, when and where like on my birthday or her my house or hers, I asked why she’s doing this to me and what did I do to her to treat me that way, as I have been a loving caring boyfriend always supported her, and she lives with me in my house, no kids, she tells me its all her fault, she didn’t intend to hurt me in any way she’s says she’s remorseful and she couldn’t go on with the lies anymore and it was just sex with him, it didn’t mean anything I can’t tell u guys how I’m feeling right now as I have not drank or ate in 3 days.
They even went so far as to involve both my SISTER and MOTHER into aiding them in hiding this 5byear affair with my girlfriend. We have been together for 9 years
I suggest you talk to a professional. It's not that I think there's anything at all wrong with you. It's more that this has got to be traumatic and you need to vent to someone who doesn't have a stake in your relationship.
I agree with Jespah that you may want to talk to a professional to help you deal with what has happened.
In the mean time, you may wish to seriously consider finding a new best friend as this one has proven not to really be a best friend. You might also want to find a new sister and mother. They have acted abominably in aiding this girlfriend to cheat on you.
Something's fishy here. Why would your own relatives enable this side affair? Apparenty they are getting something out of the arrangement too (money? Drugs? Chores done? Rent? Handyman? Gambling debt? Transportation? Blackmail? Sex? Food?)
Three women and they are all in on it?
Either you have mis-read your entire relationship with this wonan- or there's something else going on.
I can only imagine how betrayed and heartbroken you feel. To have your trust broken from the ones you thought were most trustworthy and who would never betray you must be unbearable. Trust is the hardest thing in the world to repair once damaged. Will you be able to put her cheating on you for 5 years behind you? If not, I think it best for all parties involved to move on.