I guess I need to spell out every detail to you. I still remember that psychological 2x4 to the head after decades but yes, I got over it, as will most of the others she hurt. But because she still has no understanding of what she is doing, she is apparently destined to never get over it and lives a frustrating, unhappy life.
About 5 years ago she emailed me looking for comfort, wondering what had gone wrong in her life. Since it was relevant to what she was asking I brought up our history. She blew it off, did not see herself as having done anything worthy of criticism and thought I was being cruel to even mention it.
She and her current husband visited me and my partner about a year ago. Of course I said nothing about the past this time but it was obvious that nothing had changed.
But just because she wronged me does not mean I don't wish better for her.