The Pentacle Queen wrote:
It is also quite funny though that on the years of posting on all these threads I've never said a bad word against you but you have constantly trolled my threads to find ways to call me immature and self-important. Take your own advice
Did I ever say you've said a bad word against me? I don't know if you have or not.
Have I gone on multiple threads calling you immature and self important? I don't believe so.
Have I ever trolled you? No.
You asked a question, tossed it out there to all. I gave my answer. Considering the first thing I said was that this was not meant as an insult, but as my observation, your response indicates your selective reading, picking out the parts that make you the victim. In other words, making yourself self-important.
You have definitely gone on my threads and called me self important before, I can find the links if you want. I definitely remember this because I hold grudges
I don't really blame you though, most teenagers are self-important and I was coming on the internet a lot to try and be clever. I do think I am less self important now, apart from this grudge thing, clearly.
I could also argue that picking out the parts of my threads in which appear the most self important and having remembered these specifically is also selective reading but I can't be bothered to detract from the main point of the thread.
In your last post you ask "but how do I do that"? That means you haven't absorbed what anyone here has said.
You want to know how not to hold a grudge. Multiple people, including myself have given suggestions.
Did you only want suggestions that you like? Or the truth?
Calm down. I'm open to all suggestions. I just haven't replied to everyone whose advice I felt useful yet:
I have found Neologist's post useful.
FoundSoul, I don't really think ignoring these people is an option, some of them are my friends.
EhBeth -- I don't know, probably something useful, or something else to keep me awake at night
I was just wondering whether there was something specific people can try and do, like a type of mental exercise or something. Or whether it's best to just confront the person and say: look, this might seem silly to you, but I have had this grudge with you a few years, do you want to go and have a beer and talk about it so we can have a laugh and I can forget it.