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Thu 27 May, 2004 11:43 am
husband just wants to see if this works for us. sex is great and frequent. would love to just do this but not sure how to approach our friend. any suggestions on approach or views on this subject? she turns both of us on so we thought it would be nice to add a friend and not a stranger
That sounds great. Can I be the camera man?
I think you may lose a friend if you ask her.
Just my opinion.
I agree with Montana. Despite of my being a male, I would be strongly embarrassed if some married couple made me such a proposal, and I would instinctively avoid them for not to get any other offers of this kind...
I think that that is a hard one. how open sexually is your friend, if she has dome something lik that before may be she would be open to doing it again... i would personally be wierded out about it...
just wanted to add if I could spell that would be great: I gradgeate college on saturday!
I'm w/ Montana on this also (hi Montana, good to see you again)
has she every expressed anything remotely close to being interested in this (especially w/ you and yer man)
I know this is off topic but jennylo_9 that is a good name... i love jlo, so yippy to you. welcome.
Montana wrote:I think you may lose a friend if you ask her.
Just my opinion.
Even if this doesn't destroy the friendship, going through the act will. Nothing will ever be the same again.....
That is between you and the friend, plus you and the husband!
are you shure you want to share your husband with a friend... I am pretty selfish in bed I need the attention, this would take attention away from you. also I don't know how I would feel knowing and watching my husband touch and make love to another woman.
Re: husband wants threesome
jennylo_9 wrote:husband just wants to see if this works for us. sex is great and frequent. would love to just do this but not sure how to approach our friend. any suggestions on approach or views on this subject? she turns both of us on so we thought it would be nice to add a friend and not a stranger
Why a friend? Is it a male or female friend that you are sexually attracted to? Or is your husband the one with the attraction? It sounds like this is your husbands fantasy. If so, and you want to go through with this, I would leave the "friend" out of it. You can pick-up adult newspapers with swingers parties. Plenty of consensual sex happening there. Or post an add looking for a third. Other options available if you really want to do this.
Yeah, if this is the very first time you've tried this, seems like finding someone you don't know would work better. Too many additional layers of complication if its an existing friend.
onyxelle wrote:I'm w/ Montana on this also (hi Montana, good to see you again)
Hey there girlfriend! Always a pleasure seeing you :-D
Again, I agree with the others in saying that a friend is too close to home for this sort of thing and as BillW said "things will never be the same". If this is something that both you and your husband are interested in, I also agree that you should find someone who isn't already a part of your life.
Most of us try not to moralize.
So, chucking the morals, I still think as dys so succinctly said--it's too complicated.
There is almost no way this won't come back to ruin your relationship with your husband, and certainly the friend.
What if he focuses on her more than you--is kissing OK for them? How easy is the segue from a threesome to just her and him, on occasion?
The problems are exponential. Why don't you tell him you've found a great guy for your first threesome, and see how that goes over?
I agree with Sofia and Dyslexia. Very risky!
Welcome to A2K by the way.
I believe I have a solution.... an inflatable doll!
There would be three of you.
You could call the doll by your friend's name.
After the activities are over, simply deflate her and stick her in the bottom drawer of the cupboard.
If you're too embarrassed to buy an inflatable doll, there's a guy named Slappy that hangs around this site. He'll hook you up.
Good luck.
Or, of course, you could always talk to Montana. She's an adventurous sort.
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