@revelette,
revelette wrote:
Your right, I should have stuck to my usual habit and left my personal life out of it. Like eavesdroppers, you get what you ask for I guess. (as in a general you, not you, before anything else starts..)
However, leaving my personal family out it, in general, do you believe bi-racial people should live in more states more welcoming to them or learn to lump it? I would hope, sooner or later, more evolved attitudes would take more of a hold in even red states like KY. I think they have comes quite a ways, as even as twenty years ago, but needs to come still further.
I can only make an analogy to Jews who were raised in the urban centers on either coast, or perhaps, Chicago. If they marry and move to a proverbial "Mayberry" (a la Andy Griffith) they might be most comfortable if they are affording the locals some expertise (doctor, dentist, etc.). The locals, in my opinion, would more likely welcome someone that affords them good utility (the "Jewish doctor from NYC"). However, a New York Jew knows he/she doesn't just move to a Mayberry and compete with locals for local jobs and will be welcomed. Unless of course one does what the Romans do in Rome, and the Jewish New Yorker has married some nice Baptist girl, and goes with her to Sunday services.
I sense that the analogy is not a good fit, since bi-racialism is more complicated today, than 100 years ago, when there were monikers other than bi-racial. As you well know, anyone today that is of any Black ancestry is considered Black by the Black community. Well, that serves the Black community well when political block voting can get a Black person elected.
Does it serve bi-racial individuals well? I guess it is a personal answer from the individual that counts.
Anyway, being bi-racial, as my mother once pointed out to me, when I was a teenager (probably to apprise me of any children's difficulties, if I married a Black woman eventually), is being a "pioneer in society." And, as everyone knows, pioneers never had the comfort of the cities/towns back east. That was my mother's message to me. So, I really have nothing to offer in the way of wisdom, other than my mother's possibly realistic vision of society's slow progress to everyone being just the same type of American.
P.S.: If you saw the movie "The Help," where the Black maid told the white child that she is important and a few other positive things, I believe that message goes fairly far in maintaining one's self esteem. So, if I was in your shoes, I would just love my grandchild with such demonstrative verbosity, that my love would hopefully make the child's self-esteem inured to the harshness of unloving people that we all meet anywhere.
