affair with someone elses girlfriend

Hi update as follows. I stayed over hers 2 nights ago made love (sorry bout the soppiness) all his stuff is in boxes n bags ready for collection. But he refuses to take it all because he cant accept tge fact shes leaving him but has to accept the fact he still needs to c his kid. So the arangements are mon, weds n friday maybe sat in the day the child stays with him and i stay at hers. I also go up hers wen her daughter is asleep most nights for a couple hours then leave. She says shs doing this for real and i said good becaus i love u n u love me n i dont wana have to meet another girl. I just think if she wasnt for real none of this would b happening but its still early days. We also are talking about future together already and children later on, this also gives me good hope. We are now together as a couple but not in public due to her ex bfs emotions what u think???

Hi update as follows. I stayed over hers 2 nights ago made love (sorry bout the soppiness) all his stuff is in boxes n bags ready for collection. But he refuses to take it all because he cant accept tge fact shes leaving him but has to accept the fact he still needs to c his kid. So the arangements are mon, weds n friday maybe sat in the day the child stays with him and i stay at hers. I also go up hers wen her daughter is asleep most nights for a couple hours then leave. She says shs doing this for real and i said good becaus i love u n u love me n i dont wana have to meet another girl. I just think if she wasnt for real none of this would b happening but its still early days. We also are talking about future together already and children later on, this also gives me good hope. We are now together as a couple but not in public due to her ex bfs emotions what u think???

Honestly?

I think that 1) this is definately going to be emotional for him but even worse if he establishes that there is another man in the house most days, regardless of how much time you spend there, that he was kicked out for another man, think about how you would feel... Don't think for one moment by staying out of the public eye that he will not find out... I am pretty sure you drove past (his) house several times noting her car, if you recall...

Now you know it's for real, thus far... how about taking it easy for a month. Let him at least go through some form of loss in an honourable way... I am not saying, not to see each other but don't look at it as I get to stay there Mon, Wed, Frid and maybe sometimes during the days on Saturday..

I think some morals should be at play here.

2) There is a baby, the baby sees one man go, her/his Daddy and then another man there all the time... No matter what age an infant is, they take everything in and I don't think it's a good example, the guys stuff isn't even out of the house yet.

Be Adults about this.. Is what I am suggesting.

I agree, your perfectly right in what you say i think she maybe thinking the same thing as im just seein her saturday now and shes staying at her mums fri night.. I definatly accept taking it slow. Im a little confused about what you said about noticing her car as she doesn't drive? Can you come again with that please soul. Thanks mate apreciate it!

Good to hear

Don't worry about the last line, different thread, some guy was driving past and checking whether she was staying with her boyfriend, and the stickers were gone off the car, but same car. Mate? Is that because I am Australian or you think I am a bloke

i think your a bloke are you male or female? haha

Mike - you are in the MIDDLE of a real mess. If she wants to leave, then be sure that's HER decision based on HER needs, not because of you.

YOU may get saddled with a lot of responsibility and drama that you really don't want.

Tell her not to do anything BECAUSE of you.

Punkey's advise there too is very worthy... Hense why I said "thus far".... Because she left, due to thinking she'd lose you, that's a 50/50 whether it was fear or love ok.

Now, pfttttttttttttttttttt You just took a whole lot of advice from a woman

hey hey hey.... I've said nothing but... " i can't force you to do anything" do what you feel.. her response was, i have to leave him with or without you, as our relationship has been put to bed for the last 8 months, i really like you, but lets take things slow !! thank you punk and soul your perfectly right!

soul you are the best.. i need advice from a woman as woman have different ways of going about things you've been such a help and id like to continue discussing with you. I can't thank you enough.... lets have an affair!!!

we have also started the hour long phone calls now too! and she asked if im ok with not seeing her every night and of course i answered im more than happy with taking it slow!! I'm sure this will have its ups and downs but we will be happy at the end!

Okay, so she has realised she definately is not in love with him. But, remember that word "rebound" in my opinion you go as slow as you can with making her feel safe, comfortable but also dating, don't be at her beck and call. Don't agree to see her everytime "she" asks. She has to slowly fall in love, she says she "really likes you"... That's totally different and guard your heart ...

HAHAHAHAHAHA.....................NO!

This is really very critically condition. Sad to know about your life history but no body can do anything for you. You have to take decision your self better way. Best wishes.