Not really- she's said over and over again how she never wanted kids and she's happy she didn't have them.
It would have been mean if I'd not known that and thought she might have wanted them and still said that.
What I meant was that she seems to think that anyone who doesn't do things her way or agree with her (me, for instance) is WRONG and open to ridicule - as in just because I don't think I need a flu shot - she's going to try to make me look stupid by bringing up another thing we disagreed about on another thread (the necessity of flushing a toilet with your feet to avoid germs yourself, while you then expose other and perhaps more vulnerable populations to the very thing you're protecting yourself from).
If it was mean and hurt her, I apologize. That'd be more than I've ever gotten from her. But I do think that people who are so very, very set on what they think is right for everyone else in the world would have trouble being flexible enough to accommodate another will -and children definitely have their own wills and their own ideas about how to do things. Hell, I'm not even allowed to have my own will and ideas - or answer her question truthfully if it doesn't gibe with what she thinks - and I'm a functional and functioning adult.
I also do think it's not necessary to cause children undo anxiety about issues which are just normal parts of life- like germs.
Most of them are extremely resilient and can handle a little poop and pee on their hands without succumbing to anything.