@reasoning logic,
reasoning logic wrote:
....I do wish that the Jewish community would form a group that was more visible [I am one that is not very observant] so that all would know what they are doing to help out communities and not only their own communities but the global community.
But why is that needed? Truly. Think about it. Do other minorities feel the need to trumpet that they're doing wonderful things for the world? I appreciate you saying I'm a great citizen, but I don't do these things to be recognized or to be loved or to be a credit to my faith or anything of the sort. I do them because I think they're the right things to do. I don't look for an audience.
And, there is no one Jewish community. This is a religion with several sects. Is the Jewish community Orthodox? If they are, then I am not a part, as I barely can read Hebrew, haven't had kids by choice and haven't made aliyah and haven't been to synagogue in years. Is it Reform? Then I am not a part, for I know too much Hebrew, and probably practiced too much when I was younger. Is it Chasid? Then I am not a part, for I, a married woman, do not wear a sheitl, and I work outside the home. Is it Conservative? Reconstructionist? Is it Ashkenazi? Is it Sephardic?
This is not a monolith, any more than all Protestants are the same, for they will tell you that Lutherans and Methodists and Baptists differ, and that declaring that the Protestant community is Presbyterian is to alienate a goodly chunk of folks who rightfully refer to themselves as Protestants. Just because this faith is less known in America by others that does not necessarily mean that there is so much hatred. I don't dispute that there is, for I have seen it. But I don't go looking for it, and most people don't seem to have it.
I dated a guy in 1987 and into early 1988, my last serious boyfriend before the man who became my husband. And he introduced me to his grandmother. For whatever reason, she told me that she was his grandfather's second wife, and that the first one had been Jewish. And she said to me, "And you know how
those people are." So I asked her, "What are they like?" I've forgotten what she said, possibly this boyfriend's mother distracted everyone so that I never got an answer. It's been going on 25 years and I've probably forgotten those specifics. But yes, there are folks like that out there. And for all of those experiences, and for when I was whacked across the back of my head and called a
Dirty Jew in 6th grade, there have been hundreds if not thousands of positive experiences.
I don't forget the bad experiences, but I don't let them define me.