@hawkeye10,
You can rationalise all you want, but the truth is you failed your children. If your children had not had the misfortune to have you as a father they would be safe. I'm not trying to manipulate you, I'm just pointing out the truth.
Your children were abused because you fucked up. And that's the most favourable interpretation.
You can whine and moan all you want, but because you put your own pleasure above all, you failed in what should be the most important thing in your life. The way you carp on now, about the poor little abusers, shows you're still failing your children.
You can call me whatever you want, my children are safe, because I'm their father, and I'm not a narcissistic little pervert like you.