Is dating someone who's a different race okay?

@sozobe,

I remember reading in the newspaper, however many years ago,
that the US Census Bureau reported that in the preceding decade,
there had been more divorces than marriages. I don 't remember which decade that was.

David

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@ossobuco,

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You keep barraging Gracie with your extreme views.

It is now consider extreme to not look on the idea of having children out of wedlock in a favorable manner?

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@OmSigDAVID,

Probably a while ago, since the divorce rate has been declining since the 80's.

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@BillRM,

I think she means the uncle fester costume...

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@OmSigDAVID,

HAHAHA!! She rocked your world? Laughing

That's soo lame David! (no offense lol) Very Happy

But yeah, I dont know when my dad's gonna 'let me' date. I kinda still date guys anyway but he doesnt know and its not really dating.

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@ossobuco,

ossobuco wrote:

You keep barraging Gracie with your extreme views. You and Bill are almost all we see here, preying obsessively. She is doing very well in responding, which bodes well for her in life, but the rest of us are getting sick of it. Gracie is polite and answers each post, while many of us on a2k have put one or the other or both of you on ignore for incessant posts long ago. It is a kind of internet battery.

No, I am not censoring you. Just speaking up.

I have as much right as u do to SPEAK UP as u do. Sometimes, I exercise my rights.
Write me another letter and tell me all your opinions
so that I can SUBSTITUTE your views for mine whenever I post and pretend that I believe them.
I 'm sure that will please u better.

David

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@GracieGirl,

GracieGirl wrote:

HAHAHA!! She rocked your world? That's soo lame David! (no offense lol) :

Yea; I was lamer then.
I did not know what to believe from THAT direction. It was new.
I 'd never turned my attention to it b4.

GracieGirl wrote:

But yeah, I dont know when my dad's gonna 'let me' date. I kinda still date guys anyway but he doesnt know about it.

Like Romeo n Juliet; I hope u reach a better result.

David

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@GracieGirl,

I applaud your impatience, Gracie. There are other people here that might be avoiding the thread because of repeated names. (I'll admit some avoid me). But that last thing I want to click into is a zillion omsigdavid or billrm posts. It's like bees. You seem to be a magnet for instruction.

I do recommend that you look around. There is quite a history of posts on varying subjects and you can just do a search, via Search, see upper right search - or to put in a tag into the tag window to find subjects you like that people have started before you thought of it. That is what tagging is about.

For example, your new thread about animal videos. We have a bunch of those already, with much good stuff.
Not that you shouldn't start a new one, but it is useful to check out if there are existing ones that you could add to. You want to add a new one, fine.

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@OmSigDAVID,

Yeah, you exercise them to make the rest of us go into word tharn/despair.

Give Gracie a break. She is not the next you.

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@BillRM,

BillRM wrote:

http://wingnutwatch.typepad.com/wingnutwatch/2010/05/research-findings-that-show-cohabiting-couples-break-up-at-much-higher-rates-than-married-people.html

Cohabiting couples break up at MUCH higher rates than married people.
Cohabiting parents break up at much higher rates than married parents.6
6 McManus, 2008, p. 41.
Do not cohabit if children are involved. Children need and should have parents who are committed to staying together over the long term. Cohabiting parents break up at a much higher rate than married parents and the effects of breakup can be devastating and often long lasting. Moreover, children living in cohabiting unions are at higher risk of sexual abuse and physical violence, including lethal violence, than are children living with married parents.
One of the greatest problems for children living with a cohabiting couple is the high risk that the couple will break up.25
Fully three quarters of children born to cohabiting parents will see their parents split up before they reach age sixteen, whereas only about a third of children born to married parents face a similar fate Parental break up, as is now widely known, almost always entails a myriad of personal and social difficulties for children, some of which can be long lasting. For the children of a cohabiting couple these may come on top of a plethora of already existing problems. One study found that children currently living with a mother and her unmarried partner had significantly more behavior problems and lower academic performance than children from intact families.27
25. Zheng Wu, "The Stability of Cohabitation Relationships: The Role of Children."Journal of Marriage and the Family 57:231-236.
27. Elizabeth Thompson, T. L. Hanson and S. S. McLanahan.. "Family Structure and Child Well-Being: Economic Resources versus Parental Behaviors." Social Forces 73-1:221-242.
cohabiting couples break up at a rate five times higher than for married couples

Bill, in my opinion, the most important thing for us all to do is to have as much fun,
as enjoyable lives as possible; ( in that spirit, I founded the Opulent Mensan SIG ).
Your figures probably include people who are unhappy together
but who suffer thru it anyway. That is not necessarily optimal use of your time, from a hedonic perspective.

David

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@ossobuco,

ossobuco wrote:

Yeah, you exercise them to make the rest of us go into word tharn/despair.

It sounds like u r telling me to shut up.
How good do u think your chances r of success?
Was A2K established for people to shut up??

I checked the on-line dictionary: no reference to "tharn".

ossobuco wrote:

Give Gracie a break. She is not the next you.

I know. She is not a libertarian Individualist.
It is her destiny to agree with U,
but I will sound off anyway.

David

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@sozobe,

Yeah, I get what your saying and I think you're right, but I think Im right too. Smile

Im glad getting married worked out for you sozobe! 19 years is AMAZING. You've been married for more years than I've been alive! Laughing

Its glad that you're happy with being married and its working out for you.

I dont think it would work out for me though. And you said yourself that you know people that are happy together and arent married. That's what I want.

Divorce isnt the only reason why I dont want to get married, its just that when I imagine being grown-up, I imagine being a famous director or lawyer, with tons of cash and a nice house and a great boyfriend and maybe kids(Im not sure about it because I dont wanna end up like my mom). I dont imagine being married because I dont want that. That might be weird or some people might think its wrong or dumb but that's just how I feel. Wink

No matter what Bill says or how many links you guys find, Im still gonna think the way I do. Im stubborn like that. Laughing

Thanks sozobe, I like you alot! Mr. Green

(Wow, who would've thought my thread would've turned into this?? Haha! j/k)

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@ossobuco,

Thanks ossobucco! Mr. Green

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@sozobe,

sozobe wrote:

Just as an aside -- while I agree that wedlock is not required for happy and healthy families, people really misunderstand how common divorce is. It is far less common than most people think.

And not only that, but the overall statistics include couples with both parties on their second or third go around. If you narrow the field to pairs that are both on their first marriage, the numbers look quite a bit different.

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@BillRM,

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It is now consider extreme to not look on the idea of having children out of wedlock in a favorable manner?

Oh well dude, get used to the idea. Im gonna do what I want. My dad didnt hurt me and I wont hurt my family if I have kids. Enough already. You're making it a bigger deal than it is. We're talking YEARS into the future here. Who knows what'll happen? Neutral

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@OmSigDAVID,

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Bill, in my opinion, the most important thing for us all to do is to have as much fun,
as enjoyable lives as possible

David when you bring children into the world you are assuming an obligation that come ahead of your own fun and happiness at least in my opinion,

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@GracieGirl,

Sure you are going to do what you wish and in fact I could care less even those you are still a young girl yourself if in so doing you ended up causing harm to yourself.

However is does made me sad that if you do not reconsider as you grow up you are very likely to bring harm onto defenseless children.

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@OmSigDAVID,

Ugh! I HATE Romeo & Juliet.

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@ossobuco,

Thanks! Yeah, that's a good idea. I'll start searching for threads before I start new ones. That makes more sense. Smile

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@BillRM,

What harm Bill? Me getting married or not has nothing to do with me being a good mom are not. You're being really judgmental. What, are you a perfect parent? Do you know everything there is to know about being a good Dad just because you're married?

Like I said before, my dad and mom were never married and my mom walked out before I was 6 months old. Im not harmed. Im happy, my life is fine, my dad is great and I miss my mom but I don't need her. Im doing fine with just my dad.

There are people who are married who beat kids, and ignore kids, thats harmingthem. My dad's parents were married and my dad hates them now and hated being a kid. And it may just be me, but I think it would suck more if my parents were together and miserable than it does with them being apart. Just because you're married doesnt mean you can give kids better lifes so stop making it seem like I'll grow up to be a horrible mom just because I dont wanna be married.

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