During sex she fell asleep, I continued, is that wrong?

what does she say?

How was it great sex if she feel asleep during it?

Oh! You mean great sex for You!

No, you fucked up long before that.

Since she was awake for the first part of it and was a willing party until she fell asleep, I don't think it's something you should beat yourself up over. If she had been awake, she would have most likely continued until you guys were done anyway, so I wouldn't sweat it.
Now, what people are saying on the other hand is terrible and I can only imagine how you feel. It must be humiliating as all hell, but as long as she's not freaking out about it, I don't see it as being an issue.
People can be pretty damn cruel and blow everything out of proportion as you can see, so obviously it was a bad idea to tell anyone about it, but since you can't turn back time, all you can do is wait until the dust settles.
If your girlfriend left you in a heat of rage, then I doubt the dust would ever settle, but if she's seeing at as no big deal, people will eventually shut up. It may take a while, but eventually they'll get bored and find someone else to pick on.
Best wishes to you and your gal.

I once fell asleep with my ex during this activity and even though I believe he stopped, I would have laughed if he had told me he continued, however, we're not all cut the same. I would have laughed because I was a willing party before I fell asleep, so it would have be a non issue for me, but a lot of people will judge you for that, unfortunately.

one more bit of unsolicited advice...

if you want to continue having sex with real girls, you would do well to restrict graphic discussion of it with your buddies.

girls hate that...

After giving it some thought, even though it wouldn't have been a big deal for me, I have to add that when she was awake you had her consent, but as soon as she fell asleep, the consent was no longer there because obviously she was asleep, so you're right in saying you were wrong to continue.
That being said, I wouldn't suggest ever doing it again for obvious reasons.

Well we are in a crazy society when it come to the issue of consent is concern and the responsibility for judging correctly the situation is one hundred percents on the man.

I am sure that there are women on this website that will tell you that the very fact that you had sex with someone who is so under the influence that she fell asleep during the act mean your actions where rape.

In this case, I would no longer discuss the matter and in the future be careful with the women you have as sexual partners and the state they are in as men we are all in the middle of a mine field that could blow apart your life at any minute.

In one case, a woman who jumped into a sleeping man bed and started a sexual encounter with him later claimed rape when she regretted having sex the next day under the theory that she could not had granted him consent due to her drinking.

It took a full military court marshal to clear him.

Truth hurts, don't it?


About what? About being a rapist, or about being perceived as being a rapist?

See what I mean catnip?

Be careful out there as all it take is one drunken woman who regard having sex with you the next day and you life can be ruin.

This is a good warning for you to be more careful in the future.

I think you need to take responsibility for what you did and apologize to the woman for bragging about it to your bar buddies who also couldn't keep their mouths shut. I highly doubt you were using a condom so you might also want to ask if she was using any birth control and then cross your fingers for the next 30 days or so.

alright.. I will bite.

Sorry, Im not going to sound like every one else on the thread..

But since she was drunk enough to fall asleep, can you APOLOGIZE and say that you were really only joking.. or did you tell you friend and be really serious about it?

If so, and there is no room to wiggle out of it as a light hearted joke about both of you being drunk.. then another tactic needs to be taken . Direct honesty to many people at this point is just going to damage things and frankly, its no one elses business. It is a rumor and it will take on some mighty forms before it disappears.

But no, i do not think you are a rapist at all. Consent was there. SHE choose to be so drunk she could not stay awake. You were BOTH having sex and there was never a no.

You COULD.. and it is sneaky.. but you could use the ' i went back' as a , I dont know.. answer maybe? Saying you were trying to wake her up, but YOU couldnt keep it up because you were drunk, or some stupid thing like that.

Due to the amount of alcohol involved there are many loop holes to turn this into something humorous, or walk away from it entirely. Yes, you will still feel bad but fact of the matter is you were having sex with her and she said ok. You didnt hurt her, it wasnt rape, just a wee bit odd to do.

Lesson learned.


Stay honest with her, but ignore, joke with, and pass off anyone who was not involved. Its not their business..

But then again, you're a whore.

On the contrary, it was never there.


"Your honor, I swear it wasn't rape, it was just wake-up sex."

So everyone believes this guy?

you jesting, Shirley?

I'm perfectly serious, and don't call . . .

Not everyone, George.

Sounds to me that you really are after validation from your guilt, so you can feel better.

Telling your "buddies" to me, indicates you found it funny, amusing, and bragged otherwise it would be like, I was so upset at myself I discussed it with a couple of friends..If the whole town is talking about it so to speak and thinks that you raped her, then you bragged and found it amusing..

No point trying to validate your guilt on a Forum, you have to live with it...

Even if she smiled when she woke up, you haven't suggested that you continued seeing her, so I imagine that smile is now long gone from her face, but more so, guys that don't see that "things happen" and maybe she liked you to start with, and keep their mouth shut, and respect a woman for being herself, really isn't much of a guy in my opinion.

Sorry. Hope you learn something here.