@hawkeye10,
hawkeye10 wrote:
Quote:I suppose you will have to learn yourself
Not everyone likes to go through life with their head in the sand and unchallenged, some of us have learned that the best relationships and interactions are both cooperative and combative, and so we dont shy away from conflict.....a relevant point for this thread, both when considering what happened and what the reaction to the event was. I have argued for pages that the main problem now is that these people refuse to talk to each other, refuse to have it out. This aversion to the face down (and potentially face up and thus possibly coming to terms) is what dooms the relationship and also any learning that could come from this sad story.
True enough.
I always find it funny how countries pull back their diplomats when the relationship goes down the drain. They should be sending MORE instead.
hawkeye10 wrote:
She says her kid was hit when clearly he was not, and her english is good enough that she should know how wrong the word hit is in this case.
I think she was just simplifying it, its not like she ever tried to describe what the attack was like in high detail. She didnt even say what the man yelled at him, for starters.
She said her son wasnt harmed. If she was so misguided as to see the attack as far more serious than it was, I doubt she would have said that. She would have seen wounds even if they didnt exist.
hawkeye10 wrote:
She knows a guy very well for ten years and yet she had no clue that he had putting hands on her kid in apparent anger in him
Indeed, this is a strange point. Either she didnt know him anywhere as well as she though, what sounds odd given the ten years but isnt impossible, or he has recently adquired some kind of issue that is affecting his personality. Who knows? He could even have started developing some kind of mental disease. Its rare but it can happen.
hawkeye10 wrote:
She has shown no interest in knowing why he did what he did, she would rather evade the reality and come to A2K for support or her evasion.
From what I understood she is waiting for an apology, in the very least. I think thats understandeable, but I agree that a ten year old and quite close relationship would be worthy swallowing the anger and seeking the guy out despite him having not apologized.
hawkeye10 wrote:
She says that she is very strict and that her kids are well behaved and yet this event certainly calls this into question. I have known kids who were well trained by their parents to behave, and they dont generally disobey to this extreme in a potentially dangerous situation, they know better.
The boy probaly did not though it was dangerous. Maybe he hasnt realized yet that any fall can be dangerous, not only big ones.
Also, its a single event. I dont think we can put her raising into question based on a single event. Any kid, not matter how well raised, will slip sometime. And it wasnt a very serious slip.
hawkeye10 wrote:
She has yet to admit that her kid did not behave from what I can find, I see that he apologized but has she told either us or the ex friend that her kid was out of line? I dont think so.
She did.
odessitka wrote:
We certainly did talk to our son about his behavior and explained to him that if he listened to the man and did what he asked right away, nothing would have happened.
hawkeye10 wrote:
She has yet to admit the she and her husband could have handled this better, they attacked their friend for lying hands on their kid but I see no evidence that they have acted towards him in the slightest bit as a long term friend has earned.
Well, like I have already said above, its true that they should seek him out. From what I have heard I think the most likely scenario is that the man has recently adquired an issue of which they are unaware, and could probaly help solve.