You all never mention however that when women kill they wait for the cops to come, but when men kill the tend to kill themselves too, so that when the family violence caused deaths are added up men die at about the same rate as women
Hawkeye, you really should take the time to do some research before shooting your mouth off and making unfounded statements. Most men who kill their female partners do not also kill themselves. In fact, only about 30% of men kill themselves after killing their female partner.
By any standard you choose to use, more women than men die as the result of intimate partner violence--in fact, women die at 4 times the rate of men due to violence from their partners.
You are holding it against men that we are made bigger and stronger, which we had nothing to do with
No, I'm not holding anything against men. Women are just as capable as men when it comes to using a lethal weapon such as a gun, and they can also inflict serious damage or death with a bat or knife. It is not the man's greater size that is the problem, it is also his loss of control over his aggressive impulses and the manner in which he expresses those impulses. And that is the same problem that exists when the woman loses control over her aggressive impulses and shoots, or stabs, her partner, or runs him over with a car, or poisons him, or even hires a hit man to kill her partner for her.
But no, you just go on and on with this big lie that domestic violence is cause by men and that the women get the worst of it.
I have never
said that all domestic violence is caused by men. Men, as well as woman, are victims of intimate partner violence. However, more women than men sustain serious injury requiring medical treatment, and considerably more women than men are killed by their partners. This does not mean that men aren't being abused by their partners, but the true nature and extent of that problem may be obscured by the fact that men are reluctant to report the problem to anyone. Therefore, resources, such as shelters and social services, tend to focus on the known victims who are overwhelmingly female. Men may also be better able to leave or escape from an abusive relationship because they may not be caring for, or see themselves as responsible for, young children, and they may have better financial resources than many of the females in abusive relationships. One in 4 homeless women have been the victims of domestic abuse, suggesting that low income women often have nowhere to go when they flee an abusive situation, and low income women are 3 times as likely to be the victims of domestic abuse compared to more affluent women.
Your continued obsessive preoccupation with "feminists" obscures your ability to adequately consider the issue of intimate partner violence/abuse with any objectivity. You become childishly obsessed with trying to prove that women are just as bad as men. That really isn't the issue. The issue is the problem of domestic abuse and how to decrease the incidence of such abuse regardless of which gender is being victimized. Yes, "feminists" tend to emphasize the problem as it affects women because historically this has been a "woman's issue" and women are still being the most seriously injured, and most often killed, as the result of domestic violence. That doesn't mean that all "feminists" are "cold heartless lying bitches" it simply means their public advocacy focuses on women, and if they hadn't taken up this cause for women, no one else would have done it. Rather than insult or belittle them, you should learn from the feminists and try to use their successful methods of advocacy to help men who are victims of domestic abuse. It really will be other men who are better able to encourage male victims of domestic violence to come forward so that they can be provided with whatever services they need, and male advocacy groups are needed to accomplish that.
But, Hawkeye, the topic of this thread was directed to the issue of why women
remain in abusive relationships. That is a perfectly reasonable issue to discuss. Why men remain in abusive relationships might have an entirely different set of reasons and causes, and that issue would probably be better explored in a separate thread.